The Most Traditional Country In Europe?

 Well, according to DuckDuckGo Ai, it must be Italy since it has the least women working in Europe, about 47%. Greece is in the 2nd place with 50% of all women working, and the third place, surprisingly enough goes to Romania (I thought they were communist and stuff like that;)

None of these countries is Protestant, btw. It's strange because in the USA it's mainly Evangelicals who support traditional family. And if one counts Turkey as a halfway European country, only a third of their women work (35%). Just so you know:)

Let's Talk About S*x!

Well, since some of my readers want to talk about s8x, I'm happy to oblige:) 

Is s8x important in marriage? Apparently, there exists some controversy about this issue. For a valid marriage to take place, traditionally it had to be consummated (i.e. the husband and wife were supposed to have s8x with each other). Even in medieval times, one could get an annulment if the consummation didn't happen.

Before Vatican II the Catholic Church taught married women it was their duty to give s8x to their husbands under the penalty of mortal sin. And in the predominantly Protestant countries such as the USA the husband could get a divorce if his wife refused to fulfill her "marital duties" (mentioned in "Gone With The Wind").

However. S8x was tied to reproduction. Martin Luther thought that practicing contraception is worse than incest and called those who don't want to have children pigs and monsters. The Roman Catholic Church taught (and still does) that using anti-conception was sinful (they kinda allow the natural fertility stuff nowadays, with caveats). And in the 1920 USA when all divorce was based on fault, there was a case of a woman who was granted a divorce because her husband used contraception and thus denied her offspring. 

And if you didn't want to have children, then pity, but no s8x for you. I'm not saying here that it was the correct approach, just giving you some information to think about.

Further on, in the times when the wives were expected to "do their duty" men were expected to do theirs and provide, something many modern young men don't exactly fancy doing. They prefer to hang around, watch Netflix and breastfeed to working hard and supporting their family. Because marriage isn't about duty nowadays, but about something else entirely. Hence all the problems we can see around us. 

There is something else which is interesting. Since Victorian times there is this idea that men have animal nature while women are all pure and angelic and have to submit to their husbands' whims while basically having no pleasure (the famous "lie back and think of England stuff). It didn't use to be like this before and it's not typical outside of the West. For instance, there was this man in India who became famous because he married and fathered children in his 90s. He told to the newspaper that he could do it several times per day and that his wife was very pleased. 

While Victorian morals disappeared long ago, the idea that s8x is a chore and a burden for women somehow still persists. It shouldn't be like this, obviously. But the idea that s8x fixes all marital problems is wrong, too. In fact, I knew women whose husbands divorced them despite s8x being good. Because everything else was bad. In the end of the day, s8x is only one aspect of a healthy marriage so we shouldn't make an idol out of it. 

That's all for today, feel free to leave a comment;)

Catholic Church On The Role Of Women

CATHOLIC WOMEN ARE HOMEMAKERS AND MOTHERS BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE, AND WHENEVER POSSIBLE SHOULD REMAIN AT HOME AND NOT IN THE WORKPLACE. THEY MUST ALSO BE SUBMISSIVE TO THEIR HUSBANDS, WITHIN REASON, FOR THE GOOD OF THE FAMILY AND THEIR OWN DIGNITY. THIS IS OFFICIAL CATHOLIC TEACHING…👇

Read the rest over here 

Father Knows Best

 Happy Father's Day, everyone!

No, Proverbs 31 Woman Didn't Have A Career

 Those who claim it either have malicious intentions or demonstrate utter ignorance of the Ancient world.

Women were pretty much segregated in most of the pre-Christian societies. In Athene, for instance, women from good families weren't expected to leave their homes unless accompanied by a male relative. Poor women leaving their homes by necessity was seen as a problem. Yet, it doesn't mean they were unimportant. It means that they had their own female sphere of influence as described here:

Women were responsible for ensuring that food was prepared, supplies were maintained, and that servants or slaves efficiently carried out their tasks.

 

In wealthier households, although slaves performed much of the manual labor, the mistress of the house still managed and supervised their work.

 

As a result, the smooth functioning of the home depended on the woman’s ability to manage resources and labor effectively. 

Weaving also held a central place in the daily routine of Athenian women, who were expected to produce clothing and textiles for their household. 

 

Women spent long hours at the loom, weaving garments for their family members, a practice seen as a reflection of their diligence and moral virtue.

 

Additionally, the production of cloth had economic value, as surplus textiles could be sold or used in trade.

 

As a result, weaving became one of the few ways in which women directly contributed to the economic stability of their families. 

However, despite their confinement to the private sphere, Athenian women influenced public life indirectly through their roles in managing the household and raising future citizens.

 

By raising sons who would later serve in the Assembly and perform military duties, women contributed to the political future of the city.

That is exactly what the Proverbs 31 passage describes. And btw, speaking about "selling". Most of the trade at this period was natural exchange, money was hardly used. Textiles would often be exchanged for luxury goods. 

And now about that field (no, the lady wasn't a real estate agent):

In wealthier families, wives often had additional responsibilities, including overseeing agricultural production and handling the household’s finances.

 I doubt those who tell women to get a job outside home because "Proverbs 31 lady did" would really enjoy living in that type of society (as opposed to a feminist caricature of it):

 

Public spaces, particularly those connected to politics and intellectual life, were reserved for men.

 

As a result, women rarely appeared in public, except during religious festivals or funerary rites, which allowed them to step briefly outside their prescribed private roles.

  By managing your household well and taking wise financial decisions (a penny saved is a penny earned) you are following in the footsteps of the Proverbs 31 lady much better than by mixing with strange men in the modern workplace or even working from home for a different boss than your own husband.

 

The Importance Of Christian Families

Interesting article.  

 In 1980, 33% of women had four or more children. Childlessness was rare, and the childfree movement unheard of. Now, approximately one third of millennial and Gen Z adults say they neither have nor want children. Roughly a quarter of respondents in one survey said that having children is irresponsible because of climate change. Others are unwilling to change their lifestyle or make so immense a commitment. Sterilization rates among young, childless women were already on the rise before the Dobbs ruling, and they have increased dramatically since then.

 

 

The Role Of Women In Society

 An American man agrees with Taliban. Well, basically:)))

And then there’s the issue of authority. Females should not be in positions of authority over males. It’s just not natural. I mean, men are supposed to be the leaders, the protectors, and the providers. Females are supposed to take care of the home and raise children. That’s their role in life.

I remember when I was growin’ up, my mom was always at home cookin’ and cleanin’, takin’ care of me and my dad. She didn’t need some fancy job or career to make her happy. She was happy takin’ care of her family, and that’s what females should be doin’. Not runnin’ around tryin’ to be cops or firefighters or whatever other nonsense they think they can do.

 From the comments discussing women in the police force

1950s Family Vs Modern Family

 What changed? 

I guess I have to apologise for the lack of effort posting lately:) The reason for this is we were busy celebrating my husband's birthday and St Nicholas Day with the relatives. We did it two times already and next weekend we are planning to celebrate it with our own small family by going to the Midwinter Fair.

Anyway. We had an enlightening conversation with an elderly aunt about "good old days" when women didn't work outside home. We all know it's because everybody was awfully wealthy in the 1940s and 1950s, like in these Hollywood movies, right? Unlike now when everyone is dirt poor due to the Boomers stealing all the wealth for themselves, so they really need these 2 incomes to survive.

She was talking about some cousin who used to live in our neighbourhood. She and her husband had 4 children together and would probably have more but he died early leaving her a widow. This family of 6 used to live in a house of about 50smth m2 (square meters) which are now sold as the houses for 1 or 2.

So here's your answer. That's how they managed to survive on 1 income in those days. This and men having 50+ hours working week as opposed to modern sensitive males with back pain who only can manage to work 36 hours max. This and the wives cooking everything from scratch, hardly ever going to eat out and not demanding luxury vacations 3 times a year. Simple really.

By the way about Boomers. Folks online, especially those from the USA love to accuse them of all sorts of stuff. Now I get it, Boomers are weird in some ways and slightly irritating at times. However, IF they are guilty of something, it's really of buying into this idea that every generation is going to be wealthier than the previous one and teaching this entitlement to their children.

The truth is that post WWII era of everyone getting richer every decade was a historical aberration and it's not coming back.

Biological Fathers Are Important

 Here is some statistics for you:

 Perhaps one of the most relevant and more surprising findings was this: 68% of the maltreated children were maltreated by a female, whereas 48% were maltreated by a male. (Some children were maltreated by both.) Of children maltreated by biological parents, mothers maltreated the majority (75%) whereas fathers maltreated a sizable minority (43%). In contrast, male perpetrators were more common for children maltreated by nonbiological parents or parents’ partners (64%) or by other persons (75%).

This statistic is the single most illustratory piece of data proving that removing children’s biological fathers from the home is the single biggest factor in risk of abuse. This supports my assertion that fathers, the family patriarchs, have the most interest and the biggest protective effect on the lives of children. They are less likely to abuse than biological mothers and, once removed, make single mother homes an easy target for predators who are not related to the child. 

 The second point people need to understand is that mothers are the most likely to abuse or neglect children, not fathers. In 2021, about 210,746 children in the United States were abused by their mother, whereas 132,363 children were abused by their father in that year. (Source: US Department of Health and Human Services; Administration for Children & Families https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/documents/cb/cm2021.pdf) This is consistent with findings across all NIS data...

...Only 0.7 per 1,000 children living with two married biological parents were sexually abused, compared to 12.1 per 1,000 children living with a single parent who had an unmarried partner...  

Read the whole article over here.

Marital S8x, Again

 It's spring around here:)

So I thought you'd like this article:

And here, any competent Bible student can see that the feministic stance on the sexual and emotional obligations of spouses is exactly the reverse of the case, if anything. The Bible, and the Christian tradition as a consequence, clearly holds that sex (and the fruit that ordinarily comes from it) is the primary, distinctive feature of marriage. Marriage is designed to be the place where sex happens. Marriage and sex are not the same thing, but the latter is a necessary condition and the primary reason for the former. Marriage is meant to channel the incredible power of human sexuality into a constructive force- biologically, psychologically, and socially. When the heat of sexuality is allowed to run outside of marriage, it is inevitably a destructive fire. And of course, having a marriage without sex, is like building a forge to do basket weaving. So it shouldn’t be controversial to say that by design sex should be happening in marriage. Which means spouses owe conjugal relations to each other. They are in fact entitled to sex with their mate.

For all the women out there who apparently hate the very idea of having s8xual relationship with their (prospective) husbands: why don't you go join the nunnery? Seriously though, depriving your spouse is a just cause for divorce. When we abolish no-fault divorce, it'll be one of the divorce grounds again. 

Hat tip to Will from Patriactionary

Meanwhile In Ghana

 Just some news from around the world.

There is currently a rebellion going on against Pope Francis. Some say, it will cause a schism in the Catholic Church:

 A group of 90 Catholic clergymen, scholars and authors have published a joint letter to "all Cardinals and Bishops of the Catholic Church," urging them to oppose a Vatican document approved by Pope Francis that allows priests to bless same-sex couples for the first time.

In the letter, the Catholic conservatives say that Fiducia Supplicans, a Vatican doctrine released on December 18 and signed by the Pope, would lead to the blessing of "objectively sinful" relationships. They add that the cardinals and bishops should "forbid immediately the application of this document in your diocese" and "ask directly the Pope to urgently withdraw this unfortunate document, which is in contradiction with both Scripture and the universal and uninterrupted Tradition of the Church."

Some Catholic priests went so far as to film themselves praying for the Pope to die and laughing about it:

A group of ultra-conservative priests from Spain and Latin America have been forced to apologise for saying they wished the Pope would die “as soon as possible”.

The comment was made during a filmed chat between members of a group called The Sacristy of the Vendée, which describes itself as “a counter-revolutionary priestly gathering”.

In it, Gabriel Calvo Zarraute, a priest from Toledo says: “I also pray a lot for the Pope, so that he can go to heaven as soon as possible.”

Another priest then also expresses his support for the Pope’s quick death, with other participants laughing at the comments.

The video was posted online and has had more than 60,000 views. 

Not only priests, but also some high ranking military officers appear to be upset by the current state of things in the West. Italy  suspended an army general for writing a politically incorrect book:

 ROME, Feb 28 (Reuters) - An Italian army general reprimanded by the defence minister for publishing a book disparaging LGBT people, migrants, minorities and feminists has been suspended from duty for 11 months, his lawyer said on Wednesday...The book says homosexual men are not normal and claims there is an "international gay lobby" trying to brainwash the world. It also appears to question whether Black people can be Italian, referring to Paola Egonu, an Italian volleyball international born in Italy to Nigerian parents.

 Well, I don't know about Nigeria, but in Ghana they don't care about "rules based world order'' any more:

Ghana's parliament passed a bill on Wednesday that further clamps down on the rights of LGBTQ people in the West African country.

The "Human Sexual Rights and Family Values" bill enjoys support from a majority of lawmakers in Accra and has been sponsored by a coalition of Christian, Muslim, and Ghanaian traditional leaders.

Same-sex intercourse in Ghana was already punishable by up to three years in prison, but while discrimination against LGBTQ people is common, no one has ever been prosecuted under the colonial-era law.

The new bill, commonly referred to as the anti-gay bill, now also imposes a prison sentence of up to five years for the "wilful promotion, sponsorship, or support of LGBTQ+ activities."

 Meanwhile in the USA progressives are upset about the pastor who won the Republican primary for governor of North Carolina. He is considered controversial because in a "fiery speech" he declared that there are "but two genders":

Robinson faces off against NC Attorney General Josh Stein, who won the Democratic nod Tuesday, and would become North Carolina's first Jewish Governor. Stein and Robinson will compete to replace term-limited Gov. Roy Cooper.

"Robinson is an abortion-banning, election denying, social media conspiracy theorist and come November every voter in the state will know exactly who the real Mark Robinson is," texted Morgan Jackson, a senior Stein adviser, to Politico.

Robinson, meanwhile, is on a quest to defend America against people "who want to destroy it."

How Did Grandma Manage To Stay Home?

Grandma:

"My grandparents didn't have any money to spend on luxuries for their home, but you know what? It was always clean, everything had its place, there was never clutter, and it always looked like a pretty little place that you'd want to visit for the day and drink some lemonade. My grandmother scrubbed her walls and her floors, and they sparkled. She had pride in her home - her two-bedroom home where she raised nine children who were always clean and well-behaved."

Darla Shine, Happy Housewives, New York, Regan books, 2005, p. 73.

The 4th Sunday Of Advent

 As promised, my Christmas tree:

And Julenisse(n):

And a feelgood post about housewives:

 Mrs. Lewis, now 22, has embraced the role of a “tradwife” (traditional wife), a neo-retro lifestyle trend adopted by some conservative newlywed women that has garnered a following on social media. She and her husband, Andrew Lewis, 28, embrace this choice, living together on a farm they purchased in Missouri...

 Both Christians, they chose to glorify God in how they manifested their marriage, both leading biblical lives.

“I quit my job as a photographer,” she said. “I felt like I didn’t need to be as professional and modern and super relatable to clients because I didn’t need to do that anymore.”

Instead, she dove back into her roots.

“My purpose in life is to honor and glorify God,” she said. “I don’t see very much of that in modern society...

 The role of the traditional wife means just that: filling the role of wife as it has long been defined. For Mrs. Lewis that means following the Bible.

It also means having particular standards in how you dress, what you say, and how you treat other people. And it might mean sacrifice, accepting what you don't have while embracing what you do.

Merry Christmas Eve, everyone!

Just remember, whatever happens, Jesus Christ is Lord.

Men Who Don't Want Children

 It happens quite often nowadays. The wife wants another child, and the husband says, "3 is enough or 2 is enough". And sometimes even, "1 is enough". Sometimes it's about money, of course, but you even hear it from wealthy couples. So what's the reason behind this behaviour? Are all these men simply immature? That's what many would say, and yet...

 I'll give you a historical example. My husband's grandfather had 7 children. He loved all of them and was proud he had so many. It didn't come into his mind that they should may be have stopped after the third one or something. He was not the only one as most men of his generation had multiple children. The pill was not available yet, but the Biblical method was hardly unknown to them and not all were Catholics.

On the other hand. The grandfather didn't change diapers (unless the wife was sick or something). He didn't bottle feed. He didn't babysit in his free time while his wife was getting plastered in a pub in the company of strange men. He didn't do any housework, neither laundry, nor washing the dishes, dusting or cooking any meals or you name it. Grandma did it, and later as the children grew they did most of the chores. He didn't bring the kids to school or pick them up from daycare while his wife was "empowering herself" at work. In short, he didn't do any of the stuff "the good husband" is supposed to do nowadays.

By the modern standards, he was a bad father. But you know what he did? He worked hard the whole day, every day at his business (he was a carpenter and started working at 13). He didn't drink neither visited wh8res and brought all this money home and supported his family. He taught his children manners and respect and discipline and Christian morals. They all turned out well, none was an alcoholic or a junkie or went to prison or something similar. They all married and none had children out of wedlock. In short, on average, they turned out better than many a modern kid.

I only wonder what children the latest generation of "sensitive" fathers will produce, you know the one which likes to stay home and breastfeed while wifey works?

What If All Women Quit Working?

 Feminists always ask it as some sort of a "gotcha'' question. Who is going to be nurses and primary school teachers if all the women quit working??? 

Luckily here in Europe we don't have to reinvent the wheel. We just have to look back at the not-so-distant past (20th century) and what do we see?

First, the question itself (like everything about modern feminism) is very dishonest. All women don't have to quit working. It's enough if married women quit, the way it used to be in various countries, even stipulated by law. Not "mothers". Not "after the birth of 2nd child". Not "while the kids are in (primary) school." Married women, period. Because you can't serve 2 masters and the like.

And second, especially for the Catholic countries, it's a very easy answer. Nuns. That's who used to be nurses, school teachers and even doctors. Nuns used to run nursing home facilities. In Germany you still have hospitals with nuns working there. Here it used to be like this till somewhere in the 1960s, and there are TV shows from this period which depict it. 

There are still people alive who remember how the society used to be. In fact, most laws protecting the traditional family in my country weren't abolished in the 1950s, but rather in the beginning of the 2000s, after the transition to the Euro. It's thanks to to the EU and we all know (or should know) who is really behind this organisation. 

Nuns give an oath to serve the folk and are ideal for this type of jobs which demand real sacrifice sometimes (like night shifts in hospital or waking by the bed of a dying person). Make Christianity and religious vocation cool again and your problem is solved:)

 

What Boomers Did Wrong

 There was a lady once whose husband left her so she had to work. She got lucky, however, as she met a wealthy man who married her. They moved to a remote village where he bought a house. His job demanded that he'd go on business trips so that his wife was quite often alone, and, frankly rather bored at times. However, he was adamant about his wife staying home. What should I do then, when you are away? she asked. Our children are grown and live separately.

So her husband went to the store and came home with...a sewing machine! That's what you are going to be doing, he said. And she's been doing it ever since. 

"Based," you''ll say. There is one caveat to the story. The man in question didn't at all mind when his daughters turned out to be feminists with a (high-powered) career. In fact, he encouraged them. And herein lies the problem with that whole generation.

Boomer men, at least in my country, in their majority didn't want their wives to work because they correctly estimated that when a woman has an income of her own, she is inclined to have her own way and doesn't really need her husband as much as when she is fully dependent on him. They were quite dominant and expected to be the boss at home. 

And by exactly the same reason, they raised their daughters to be feminists. Because the daughters were all little princesses and you can't expect a princess to submit to some unworthy guy, can you now? She is too good for that. So they taught them to be independent. Just like charity begins at home, feminism does, too...

The Importance Of Marital Bed

 There was an old lady once (about 20 years ago) whose husband became severely handicapped and had to go into a nursing home. She refused to accompany him, saying that she was still too young and healthy. Next thing happened, that lady's liberal Evangelical (!) church barred her from communion citing "the divorce of table and bed" as a reason. In those less enlightened times, even many liberal churches considered a divorced woman a sinner not worthy to partake in sacraments.

Of course, nowadays we know better. Even fundie wives don't think twice before kicking the old man out of the house the moment he becomes seriously sick and nobody bats an eye. People told me my mother-in-law was some kind of a saint for simply doing her wifely duty and staying with her husband till the end.

Yet, not so long ago, "the divorce (or separation) from table and bed" was a legal concept dating back to the Middle Ages. When I married in the beginning of the 2000s I was told that it was a marital duty for me and my husband to live together. Last time I checked, they don't say it any more. But in the times past, one spouse abandoning the other or denying him/her "the spousal rights" (i.e. s8x) was grounds for legal divorce. 

Marriage wasn't considered a real marriage until consummated (husband and wife having s8x) and even the Catholic Church allowed annulment in this case. Because marriage without sharing the bed and communal housekeeping is nothing more than a sham. Once you deny your spouse these things, you have already divorced him (her), just unofficially. 

I wish these wives who deny their husbands (and vice versa, because it also happens) would keep it in mind.

Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled.

How To Be A Good Christian Housewife

 It's actually very easy. To be a good Christian housewife, you need 2 things only. A breadwinner husband  and you staying home doing housekeeping.

A disclaimer: I'm not writing this post to criticise other people's choices, but rather to support those women who want to stay home but feel overwhelmed by different things pushed on the internet as a requirement while they are clearly an option. Let's not be like pharisees teaching as doctrine the commandments of men. Some of these things aren't even in the Bible but are simply typical for some (American) Christian subcultures which makes it even more difficult for European women to relate.

This said, to stay home you don't need the permission or agreement of your parents/parents-in-law or other family. Your husband is the head of your household, not his mother, or yours for this matter. 

You don't need to have a certain amount of children. You can have 1 child, 3, 10 or none. While the Scriptures call children a blessing there is never a fixed number mentioned. Sarah, a very godly woman who is an example for the believers had none for the most part of her marriage. They also don't have to be of a certain age (young, pre-schoolers etc). They can be all adults and live on their own and you can still be a homemaker.

You don't need to birth them in a certain way. There are those who push home birth as the "only godly option" or will tell you that a C-section is somehow sinful. It's not only nonsense, it's downright irresponsible to give such advice online. The same is true about epidural/natural, induction etc. Those are health decisions which are between the woman and her doctor and disregarding medical advice in such a case can lead to very serious consequences, including death of your baby. Please keep it in mind.

Once the child is born, the new mother is burdened with even more advice from well-wishers. Cloth diapers, co-sleeping, breastfeeding on demand till a certain age. To vaccinate or not. Of course, there is nothing wrong with many of these things, but they are personal choices, not religious dogma. Instead of always turning to the internet, why not asking your mother? This is something with which she can help, seeing that she raised you and you turned out fine:)

Another thing that you don't need to do to stay home is home school. Home schooling is typically American. It's not widespread in other countries, some countries such as Germany downright forbid it. Does it mean that a German woman can never be a housewife? Homeschooling is a valid choice, but again, it is a choice. You also don't need to have a home business. Once again, it's personal. It's not commanded anywhere in the New Testament, it's (imo) a legalistic demand based on the certain interpretation of the Proverbs 31, which, btw, is in the OT.

You don't need to dress in a certain way. The Bible talks about modest and distinctly feminine clothes, but doesn't tell you to wear only dark colours, for instance, like some churches do. You don't need to follow a certain diet. You can be a vegetarian or a carnivore, or whatever, it's your personal preference. You don't need to live on a farm/from subsistence farming because "all cities are sinful". Your husband doesn't have to be self-employed. You can send your son to college/university (whether it's a good choice for a daughter is another debate) without sinning. 

I could go on and on but I hope you get my point. We have freedom in Christ. Some things are clear commands, like "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Others are up for discussion. You don't have to live a Little House on the Prairie lifestyle like some Christians would tell you, but, of course, you are free to do it if both you and your husband like it.

The Real Reason Western Women Work

 There are actually two, but before discussing them I'll take you back in time to the 1960s. 

When my parents-in-law married, my mother-in-law was about 19 years old. She had no debts and no college education. She quit her job right away. The 1st year of their marriage, they had no house of their own and rented an attic by Grandma. When their first child was born, they moved into a 55m2 apartment, and they spent their whole life there. They went on to raise 3(!) children there. My husband's room was so small, he had a bed which could be put up and down. When it was down, the door couldn't get open. His sisters shared a room together. 

My father-in-law died in this apartment, and my mother-in-law stayed there till the end of her life. It was a rental, btw, they never owned property. Nowadays, the whole apartment complex has been turned into senior homes, mostly widowed people live there. You get my point? 

The house in which my mother-in-law grew up still stands, too. They used to live there with 8 people (the parents and 6 children). This type houses now go on sale as "starter's homes for 1 person". So here is the 1st reason most married Western women choose to work. The insatiable greed and materialism. Whatever these women have, it's never enough. The average family size went from 4 kids to 1.5, while an average home size went from 2-3 bedrooms (my father-in-law was brought up in a 2bedroom rental and he had to share his bedroom with his sister. His mother didn't work) to 6 or 7.

And then you have "many luxury vacations", the latest model cars bought on credit (my mother-in-law didn't even have a driving license, she bicycled everywhere) and so on and so forth. Because the princess is only worth the best. Of course, let's be fair, there are also men like this. There are husbands which insist their wives work. But most modern Western men are easy-going (much too easy, in my opinion), and don't really need that much. They don't mind one way or the other, whether their wives work or not. But when she comes with student's loans, won't cooperate with his financial plans, can't budget and won't do any housework, of course even the modern soyboy will often rebel and tell her to go earn her own income.

 Because it also sounds progressive and less s8xist than "shut up and go cook dinner", which he really should be saying. 

Reason n2 is that modern women simply don't want to submit to their husbands. If she quits her job, she is basically at his mercy. "The one who pays, decides". Often nowadays, they are the children of divorce, or even worse, illegitimate, and all these girls were raised with an idea that "all men are bastards" and that you shouldn't trust them. 

The little time they spend at home, they are glued to the modern msm, which tells them they need to be strong and independent. If they stop earning, there is still a chance the husband would ask her to do at least some housework, and she views it as a fate worse than death, because housework, cooking and childcare is beneath her. She'd rather force her husband do it, to remind him who is really in charge.

The truth is, you can still live like in the 1950s, if you accept that you standard of living will be lower that what is considered normal nowadays. I'd also like to add a word of warning to women, so that I'm not accused of being biased against them:) While most modern women aren't brought up to be wives in the traditional sense, not all men can be decent husbands, either. Avoid "starving artists", various addicts, violent criminal types, wh8remongers and mama's boys. None of them make good husbands. 

And while the first four are obvious, mama's boys often come across as "sweet, loving, being from a good family" types but they are a real poison. They are weak, lazy, entitled, accustomed to being served on hand and foot, accustomed that all their problems are solved by someone else, and will get a burnout and let you be the breadwinner, while their mommy will accuse you of not being sympathetic enough to her little snowflake. 

By the time a man starts contemplating marriage, he should be independent and assertive, have a steady job and enough income to buy/rent a place of his own. It doesn't have to be a villa, just a separate dwelling from his parents. That's about all for today:) I must go make dinner, 'cause my husband expects it.

Men Are Intelligent

I know that's not what they taught you, but nevertheless, it's true:)

I want to tell you 2 stories. The first one, I read online. The 2nd happened in real life.

So the story N1 goes as follows. There was a family once, a husband and a wife. The wife was a successful business woman. She had a great career and earned quite a bit of money. The husband, not so much. In fact, he had difficulty holding a job and when he tried various business projects, they all failed somehow. Yet, the family needed money, so the wife started working more and more and became even more successful. The guy, on the other hand, dropped out of the workforce altogether.

The wife was very upset and they began fighting constantly. Then, one day...he ran away with another woman. The wife was shocked, she couldn't figure out why any woman at all would want that loser. To her dismay, her ex soon succeeded at his new project, made lots of money and became quite wealthy, while his new wife stayed home and didn't work at all. Why couldn't he be like this with me??? his 1st wife kept asking.

Story N2 is about a couple where both spouses worked. Yet the husband somehow never managed to find full employment and worked shorter hours than he liked. His wife worked 3 days a week and supplemented the family income. She then became very sick and couldn't work for a long time. Finally, her sick leave drew to an end, and then she decided to quit altogether because her health still wasn't much better and she was easily tired. They had young children and missed that money. Then, as if by a miracle, the husband found a full time job so their money problems were solved.

Modern women are taught that in order "to help their husband", they must go out and find a job, however, sometimes, the best course of action is just to stay where you are and inspire your husband to be masculine by your femininity. Men are strong and intelligent, they can figure it all out on their own, if the women let them:)