CATHOLIC WOMEN ARE HOMEMAKERS AND MOTHERS BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE, AND WHENEVER POSSIBLE SHOULD REMAIN AT HOME AND NOT IN THE WORKPLACE. THEY MUST ALSO BE SUBMISSIVE TO THEIR HUSBANDS, WITHIN REASON, FOR THE GOOD OF THE FAMILY AND THEIR OWN DIGNITY. THIS IS OFFICIAL CATHOLIC TEACHING…👇
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There are still women out there who would agree that mothers of young children belong home. Some would even go so far as to suggest that those kids who go to primary school should have their moms around, too. But a teenager? They can take care of themselves, can't they?
There is a small problem with this line of reasoning. Namely, the fact, that teenagers in general are prone to risk-taking behaviours, as illustrated by the previous article I linked to. Your baby isn't going to get drunk. Your toddler won't do drugs or start an orgy. Your teenager may and sometimes they will.
When you look at the case of the teenage killer, you see a stereotypical 2 income family and a child (yes, teenagers are still children) of 14 spending long hours home alone which gave her the freedom to use drugs without her parents even suspecting anything. Because if you know something about a 2 income family (I do), then you realise that both parents are too tired in the evening to really bother.
In my country the police recently arrested a p8do. He created fake accounts on social media pretending to be a young woman and encouraging underage boys to send him explicit material. Some of these boys were as young as 10. While the crimes against children are horrible, and should be punished severely, I keep wondering, where were the parents of these young boys? Do they take any interest in their kids' activities any more, or do they just give them a smartphone and that's it?
Mom, in the world of today your teenager needs you at home, more than ever!
Happy Mother's Day, everyone!
I tried to post a video, but the Blogger would delete my previous video on Hobbits somehow, so I'll just congratulate you like this!
Here is an interesting video about women regretting their divorces:
Here are a couple of things to consider. First, WARNING: language. Not PG friendly:)
Second, I've know guys who did exactly the thing he says never happens, like leaving his wife for another woman, but his general point stands.
Third, the lady with 4 kids is a real basket case and the ex-husband is much too nice, which is why she probably left him in the first place.
And finally, the last case. I've written on my blog about a similar story, but it ended much worse. The woman hanged herself in front of her minor kids.
Women in the past were taught how to attract men, to make them marry you and, the most important thing, how to keep them. Appears to be a lost art nowadays...
I remember the words of an old song, Mother gave me life, Mother is the most important word in every language. This simple fact is somehow denied in our modern times. I recall reading a magazine about pregnancy and childbirth from a midwife's office where some "child development specialist" claimed that it really doesn't matter for your child who is raising him, you or a nanny. This is obviously a lie, invented to make working moms feel better about themselves.
Here is a simple test. Have you ever being scared witless in your adult life? May be not in real life situation but in a dream? Whom did you call for help? There is a story I read once about American war prisoners in Japanese camps in the 1940s. Japanese were in the habit of torturing them for fun, to break their spirits. These men would call their mothers. Not Dad. Not Granny. Not a baby sitter. Not a nice day care lady. No, these once tough soldiers were screaming for their moms.
That is not to say that a father isn't important. And, of course, it's a blessing to have loving and involved grandparents. I'm saying it as someone partly raised by Grandma. I loved her to pieces and still do, though she has been many years deceased. She was a real proper lady with high moral principles, feminine but hard as nails if the need called. They don't make them like that any more. Still, Granny was Granny and Mother is Mother if you know what I mean.
If you are planning to have children you should also be planning to stay home with them. And not only "while breastfeeding" or "until they go to school" or any such nonsense. Teenagers need their mothers, too. Your baby won't try alcohol behind your back. Your toddler won't do drugs. Your 1st grader won't have orgies at home. We all know who is prone to try all these things if there is no one around. It's not a modern problem, either. I remember when I was in high school there were certain homes where no grown ups were present during the day where certain things happened. Sometimes working mothers even had to quit their jobs to set things right.
It didn't get better since that time, if something it got worse.
Whatever pretty lies the society has been telling you, it still doesn't change the real facts. It's not your mother's responsibility.
Modern churches shame Christian men for not wishing to marry single moms:
So without further ado, here are the theological errors in his three reasons he thinks “Christian men should pursue Christian single moms for marriage.”
“1. Single Christian moms are as pure as the sinless Son of God, which is more than you deserve in a wife.”
Here, Parkison confuses righteousness coram deo (before God) with righteousness coram mundo (before the world.) Before God, single Christian moms are indeed pure due to the imputed righteousness of Christ, which he mentions several times in the piece. But in this very same sentence, he judges Christian men coram mundo when he indicates that they don’t deserve such a wife. After all, coram deo, Christian men are likewise pure & perfect. Accordingly, they truly deserve a spotless bride just as much as Jesus Christ does. In other words, Parkison is making an apples-to-oranges comparison here.
Such attitude to single moms being perfection itself is rather new. I'd like to give you an example of how the law and custom used to treat single moms somewhere about 100 years ago in my country.
First, there were no "single moms". You had widows, which were respected, divorced women and unwed mothers of bastards illegitimate kids. Those groups were all treated differently. I'm not sure how the law treated the rights of a divorced mother before WWII. After the war, they usually got the custody but the divorce itself was considered something extremely shameful and their choice of prospective marriage partners was rather slim.
Poor widows were to be provided for by their male relatives, usually brothers. Since a woman was not considered responsible enough to raise a child on her own, the law made her brother the guardian of the child and any decision, such as education had to be approved by him. As you can understand, many men were very resentful at the idea of having to support both his own family and that of his sister. I heard stories about some relatives where the lady was left a widow with 6 or 7 children and her brother made such a deal out of it that she swore to marry the 1st man who would take her. She then married a widower with 6 kids of his own (all boys while hers were all girls).
Even though he had married her so that she could take care of his kids, he again resented very much the necessity of providing for the kids of another man and promptly kicked her daughters out of the house by the 1st opportunity so that they had to enter domestic service (there was little opportunity of other employment).
I also read that in some places widows were provided for by the community but had to take care of the orphans in return.
And what about the real "single moms", the euphemism invented for the one reason only, to take away the stigma?
A woman who produced an illegitimate kid was obviously deemed unfit to raise him herself. If the family were poor the child was taken away and placed in an orphanage. The mother then had to work, and pay out of her wages for the upkeep for her bastard. She was allowed to visit him from time to time. If she married (and yes, it did happen even back then), she had to quit her employment (married women couldn't work, of course), so it was up to her husband to pay for it. The child still stayed in an orphanage though.
Again, I heard stories of a distant relative somewhere in the 1920 or thereabout who always claimed that her pregnancy was the result of r8pe (though the man was never prosecuted) yet it didn't help her. She later married and her husband kept paying to the orphanage. Germany, btw, had similar laws about male guardians, and they were abolished only somewhere in the 1980s from what I heard.
So that was the law and tradition about single moms back then. I'm not implying we should go back to it, just providing the info:)
Even though I can't agree with her husband-finding methods, this is quite impressive by modern standards:
WAKING up at 6am, Bronte Rawlingson rushes to the kitchen to whip up her husband’s favourite breakfast before a day of cleaning and looking after their children...
Dropping out of private school for love and then choosing to become a teen mum at 19, she is a self-confessed “traditional wife” and has no interest in having a career.
The 29-year-old is married to Phil, 35, a plumbing business owner, and says staying home and being “feminine” helps their marriage flourish.
She adds: “I believe one of the reasons there are so many failed marriages is that women don’t behave in the way men want...
... I get up at 6am to make my hubby breakfast & clean, if women looked after their men like me they wouldn’t get divorced
Depression in general and post-partum depression in particular.
Here are some interesting links:
No evidence that depression is caused by low serotonin levels
Does Depression Exist? (from HuffPost, no less)
Another article with the same name raises some very interesting questions:
Does depression exist? I don’t mean to imply that those with depression should just “pull themselves together”: of course depression symptoms exist (and are sometimes life-ruining). And of course those symptoms often overlap with each other, which certainly implies that there’s a common cause. But is there a thing we can point to in someone’s brain — or some identifiable part of their psychology — that’s called “depression”?
In my opinion, what we call "depression" is the consequence of stress and chronic stress leads to a long-term depression, which appears to be supported by evidence, as this article on post-partum depression states:
The women were asked in interviews about how much support they received from their families and the child's father and about their symptoms of depression. In addition, blood samples from all participants were analyzed to assess their levels of placental corticotropin-releasing hormone (pCRH), a stress hormone released from the placenta...
... Hahn-Holbrook and her colleagues discovered that pregnant women who reported the greatest support from their families had lower levels of depressive symptoms. They also had the least dramatic increases in pCRH and the lowest absolute levels of pCRH in the third trimester of pregnancy...
...These results are consistent with the idea that social support limits abnormal pCRH increases and that lower pCRH levels, in turn, reduce the risk of postpartum depression.
See also this article:
How Other Cultures Prevent Postpartum Depression
Finally, this guy argues that suffering from depression and/or anxiety happens because your life generally s8cks and it won't get better until you actively try to improve it.
Thoughts? Feel free to share your experiences!
Have you ever asked yourself what the heck is wrong with Western women? They often have multiple s8x partners but seem unable to attach to anyone, they divorce their husbands on a whim, their lack of maternal instinct is pretty spectacular and is only rivaled by their love for liberal causes such as infinity diversity combined with hatred of her own people. In terms of the survival of the fittest they are right below on the list right now.
You can't attribute it all to indoctrination, there are sound biological reasons behind this abnormal and I should say, suicidal behaviour. Now what could it be? What could have changed normal femal behaviour so much but only, it appears, in western countries? It's this wonder of modern pharmacy, the anti-conception pill:
It was meant to revolutionise life in the bedroom – but taking the Pill switches off the look of love.
A new study shows that women who choose the daily contraceptive see their men in a less flattering light.
Do you know who they start valuing more? Other women, aka the female "herd":
It adds: ‘To some extent [the Pill] mimics hormone profiles during pregnancy, [so] oxytocin may increase the reward value of a female friend as a potential source of social support.’...
The study says: ‘[It appears that] oxytocin interacts with the brain reward system to reinforce partner value representations in both sexes, a mechanism which may significantly contribute to stable pair-bonding in humans and appears to be altered in women using hormonal contraceptives.’
Psychosexual therapist Pauline Brown said the research presents women with a dilemma.
She said: ‘There’s no doubt that the Pill lowers the libido in many women and this explains why.
‘It’s a paradox that contraception can be seen by some couples as a way to help their relationship and yet it may end up having the opposite effect.
In short, the Pill interferes with normal oxytocin production which impairs pair-bonding. But wait, there is more. Oxytocin is also important for in-group bonding, as it promotes human ethnocentrism. Westerners currently have probably the lowest level of it which is the price we as a society pay for our love of convenience (many men don't want to be "burdened" with children just as much or even more than women), something the Catholic Church warned about in Humana Vitae (I think, could be another document).
Amazingly, we are taught that ethnocentrism is bad, and yet it also
facilitates within-group trust, cooperation, and coordination and is necessary for any group to survive and keep its identity.
By putting another 15 year old girl on the Pill to "regulate her cycle" (I just wonder how did all these countless female ancestors we had regulate theirs before the 1960) the doctor creates another foot soldier for a New World Order. That's why all these secular right wing groups ranting against mass immigration won't achieve much unless they address the elephant in room: the so-called s8xual revolution leads to extinction. Which is correct, because we know that the wages of sin is death.
That was the whole point of it:
The 50-minute-long training session left Huston, who weighs 113lb and wears 45lb of line gear plus a 25lb chainsaw strapped to her back, exhausted beyond anything she’d felt before. “I could feel the fatigue literally in my womb,” the 23-year-old says.
Huston is a hotshot – a firefighter who battles wildfires. She hasn’t had a period in three years, something she attributes to the physical intensity of the job, and the brutal training sessions crews are put through...
Research Jahnke conducted in 2018 surveyed 1,821 women in the force. The report found 27 percent of firefighters’ pregnancies ended in miscarriage, while rates of pre-term birth were as high as 16.7 percent, higher than the national average of 10 percent.
The solution is, of course, to have kinder, gentler fires that pregnant ladies will have little difficulty putting out:
Firefighters are regularly exposed to chemicals like carbon monoxide, ammonia and known carcinogens, which, according to the International Federation of Gynecology and Obstetrics, are linked to early miscarriage, birth defects, slowed fetal growth, impeded brain development and preterm labor.
It's because fires are a tool of the patriarchy, government should have forbidden wildfires long ago. Then women could just get a high salary without actually doing anything at all:
“Women are being failed by a system that is intrinsically built around, and for, men,” says Dr Sara Jahnke, the director and senior scientist at the National Development & Research Institutes, which focuses on public health.
“There is no room for sexual harassment or gender-based discrimination in the fire service,” said USFA fire administrator Tonya Hoover.
When choosing a career for your daughter, remember, we are all equal! As for children, we can always import them, after all we are doing quite a good job right now...
Because you really need this yuge house...
Psychotherapist Susan Gerhardt said, "What seems to be most crucial for the baby is the extent to which the parent or caregiver is emotionally available and present for him, to notice his signals and to regulate his states."
"The baby’s mother is primed to do these things for her baby by her own hormones, and is more likely to have the intense identification with the baby’s feelings that is needed, provided she has the inner resources to do so.
"Babies come into the world with the need for social interaction to help develop and organize their brains.
"If they don’t get enough empathetic, attuned attention – in other words, if they don’t have a parent who is interested and reacting positively to them – then important parts of their brain simply will not develop as well..."
According to Dr. Gordon Neufeld, the prefrontal cortex is not ready for integrative thinking and social interaction until between five to seven years of age...
As a result, children continue to need an emotionally available and present parent or caregiver until they are school age. This caregiver needs to understand the children's emotional cues and be able to support the integration process.
Nine separate studies from Holland's Leiden University show that the more hours children spend outside their home, the more their stress and panic levels rise...
... the lack of close parent-child interaction creates long-term effects of depression, hyperactivity, suboptimal cognitive and language development, poorer-than-expected academic achievements, and different forms of mental health damage...
Leaving your baby in the care of other since age 2.5 months should constitute abandonment, unless the family are starving, and it would, in a just society which isn't obsessed with narcissism, egoism and material gains.
It's interesting that when you do a search on the topic, Western newspapers try to minimalise the effect, unlike Israel News.
How did we ever come to the point when the word Mother, arguably the most important word in any language, the first word you learn, has become politically incorrect?
Personally I want to wish Happy Mother's Day to every mother, expectant mother and wannabe mother! We had a great day at the camping, it was +29*C in that part of the country (we left yesterday with rain and +11*C).
We went out and ate cake and drank tea and coffee, the sun was shining, the terrace was full, and everybody was happy that we are finally allowed to enjoy life again.
Temps will get lower the coming week, but still reasonable for May, and Thursday is Ascension, so a long weekend again, for many. Hope you all are having a fine day today with your loved ones!
Wife wants to take care of her baby, is accused of being mentally ill by her own husband:
My wife’s company has a generous maternity leave policy, and she has been at home with our daughter since the birth and is scheduled to go back to work just after her first birthday in January. She recently told me she doesn’t want to go back to her job and would like to be a stay-at-home parent instead. I asked her why, and she said she enjoys being a mother too much to leave our daughter to go back to work when she doesn’t need to...
...one of the things I was most attracted to was her ambition and tenacity. It’s really surprising to hear that her career isn’t that important to her anymore...
... I really admired my wife for her work ethic, and I want her to set a good example for our daughter, too. Seeing her give up like this is really disappointing. I gently asked her if she thought her change in attitude could be related to a possible mental health issue...
It's actually called maternal instinct, even cats possess it. It's what makes you a good mother. Yet, there are some women on the internet who will defend this loser and say that the wife needs to obey him unconditionally, and that the well-being of a baby is less important than the father's feels.
And yes, I met "men" in real life who pushed their (unwilling) wives into the workforce and then had the audacity to complain. The state of modern Western family isn't only the women's problem.
Read the whole article over here.
P.S. I've read a twitter discussion on the topic and some folks apparently have a reading comprehension problem. Nicole isn't the father's name, it's the lady who runs an advice column and she quotes a guy who wrote to her.
