There I found this little gem from the good old times:
Emily Post Table Manners 1947
Actually, YouTube has an abundance of videos on this topic, which proves that a lot of people are still interested in the art of fine dining. You can find the guides on how to set the table properly, or what to do with your napkin:
Of course, when alone at home with one's family one can be less formal, but as they say, practice makes perfect. The best way to remember all those rules is to practise them regularly. After all, dinner was once considered such an important meal, that people used to change for it. I'm not saying at your house it should be like this (minus getting drunk part, of course), but more along these lines:
a date with your family
Have fun with your New Year celebration!