Disclaimer: I'm not writing this post to pile on working women, and I know that some probably don't have a choice; while, on the other hand, we all know women who stay home but do little housework or mothering. That said, housewives are often confronted by working women, in real life and online, and accused of laziness, because the said working women have this strange idea that they both earn an income AND do the same amount of work at home, which is very obviously not true, and I'm going to prove it.
A mother who works any amount of hours outside home while having children of preschool age is quite obviously NOT spending this time with her children hence not mothering them. Any woman who uses after school care, help of granny or a nanny, idem ditto. They will tell you that they are with their kids in the evening, well, and so is a stay-at-home mother! Quality time after working 6 to 8 hours and commuting while quickly coking dinner is a myth.
Speaking of cooking, working women will tell you that they, too, cook. Someone told me she cooks once a week and freezes her dinners. While it's better than fast food so many families exist on nowadays, it's not equal to making dinner every day from fresh ingredients, the way a normal housewife does.
Shopping for better ingredients and bargains takes up a lot of time, too, and guess what? Many working people nowadays do all of their shopping online and have it delivered to their house. Since they pretty much outsource it, you can hardly say they do the same amount of work.
As for housecleaning, it's something which is difficult to compare since all the homes are different. Yet I keep hearing of women who clean their bathroom once in 3 (!) weeks or single ladies living in a small studio apartment which hardly takes much time to clean or couples who have parents (!) cleaning their houses while they both work comparing themselves to someone who has a decent size family home with a garden and a family with small kids.
It's simply the cold hard truth that there are but so many hours in the day and if you spend them working away from home or hanging out with friends, you aren't spending this time working at home or taking care of your kids, so no, dear working lady, you are very clearly not doing the same thing a full time homemaker does.
Again, I'm not attacking working women, just gently reminding them that housewives don't appreciate catty comments about them "wasting their time and potential at home" just like a working lady would probably get angry if told that she was just a paper-pusher in some office or something similar. If modern society is all about "choice" than the choice to be a traditional homemaker should be respected as well.