There are some men among us who call themselves anti-feminists and yet, they demand their (prospective) wife works. They will admit that if there is an infant or a pre-schooler in the house he will need a supervisor, but once he goes to school or generally becomes of an age to take care of himself, the mother must work at least part-time, to justify her existence.
One of their chief arguments is that housework in our day and age is easy and doesn't take much time and thus any housewife except mothers of very young children, is just a lazy good-for-nothing.
It once again shows that many of the so-called antifeminist males are just frauds and want to both have their cake (a submissive wife who keeps the house) and eat it, too (and she is a capable breadwinner at the same time), but that's beside my point. I just wanted to look deeper into the claim about modern housework being easier than say, a 100 years ago. Well, it depends.
(Another thing to consider is the fact that most men's jobs are also
easier than they used to be, btw. Many of the guys decrying housewives
are hardly working in the coal mines, themselves but are some sort of an
Many households at that period still had servants, including cooks, especially in the countries like the UK. The amount of the housework the well-off women did was minimal. On the other hand, poorer women missed such labour-saving devices as a washing machine. Washing by hand is one heck of a job. But...they also had less clothes and washed them less often, etc etc.
It also depends on your housekeeping standards. I heard that, e.g., in Turkey women are famous for washing all of their windows at least once a week and cooking elaborate meals 2-3 times a day. Obviously, it will take you longer to accomplish your work if your standards are that high and you cook all your meals from scratch.
On the other hand, there is a thing about housework: you can't always calculate the exact amount of time you spend on it each day in the same way you would do if you had outside employment because some things fall into a grey area. Taking your children to and from school (no school bus for us here in Europe, sorry). Helping them with housework. Taking the family dog out. Helping a sick neighbour with shopping. Taking kids to the dentist. Running errands and doing paperwork. Visiting an elderly relative etc etc.
While it's not really hard labour, it takes time AND energy and when you get older, you'll start noticing that your energy levels are going way down (men don't often realise that many women are lower energy than themselves because they are physically less strong and lack testosterone). Another thing men complain about is how bad modern women look. They are all fat, badly dressed etc. Well, taking care of your appearance and gym take time, too, and so does shopping for fashionable clothes even if you do it online. The time which isn't spent in any productive pursuits, but leaves the husband satisfied.
So is housework difficult? It's generally less physically exhausting that it used to be in the past, true. However, there are still lots of things around the house which need to be done and only so many hours in the day. If your wife or girl-friend spends her hours at home chatting with other men online and cheating on you while you work, it's not because housewives are obsolete but because she's a lousy person. That's it.
I would say that housework is not difficult, or hard work (exept gardening), but it is time-consuming if done well. I actually think most jobs are not difficult for the person doing the job, once one gets used to it. When I was still working, I did not find accounting difficult. Boring as ****, maybe, but not difficult. I have actually never heard a person complaining their work is difficult. They may have too much to do, but difficult? No.ReplyDelete
I don't think people should compare housework to paid job. They are completely different things. The idea of having a housewife is that nobody needs to do housework in the evening and everybody can relax. How much time that housework actually takes, is irrelevant: what is relevant is that nothing is more stressful than doing housework in the evening or watching someone else do it. Evenings should be relaxation time.
Oh, and if men want traditional gender roles, it all starts with the "man is the breadwinner". Men should understand that if woman is forced to work outside the home, there is no way she can feel feminine and submissive and all that. Because she does not feel protected. That's why women are so crazy and awful nowadays: they do not feel protected, because their husbands do not de facto protect them. It is bye-bye femininity.
Most housework is not difficult but can be time consuming, depending on one's health. Having had a chronic autoimmune disease for over 20 years, my work has slowed drastically the past 5 years. So often we can't compare due to unknown situations. Food for thought in your post!ReplyDelete
I realise that many aren't Christians, but if you are... there is another thing to consider. The Scriptures talk about "a keeper at home". Newer Bible versions often will translate it as "a worker at home" but the original Greek word as far as I could find could be better translated as "a stay-at-home". It's not only about scrubbing the floors, when a house is empty for the long periods of time it just doesn't feel homey if you know what I mean. I wish more men would value it.ReplyDelete
I generally don't allow anonymous messages on my blog but decided to let this one stay to illustrate the unfortunate mentality exhibited by so many men nowadays.ReplyDelete
Aren't you guys supposed to go your own way? Instead you are trying to persuade other men to turn into a male equivalent of a catlady. Truly, misery loves company...
Sanne, could you please give me a Bible verse number where "keeper at home" is mentioned? I have two different finnish translations of the Bible and I would like to check how it is translated to finnish. Thank you.ReplyDelete
I think you are very right with this "stay-at-home" -thing. I remember when we were on a vacation when I was six years old and the house was empty for a week. When we came home, I claimed "the scent of home is missing" and then crawled around all house trying to find it.
Titus 2:5. You are welcome!Also check this:ReplyDelete
"Keepers at home: minding their own family affairs, not gadding abroad; and inspecting into, and busying themselves about other people's matters. This is said in opposition to what women are prone unto. It is reckoned among the properties of women, by the Jews, that they are יוצאניות, "gadders abroad"F24: they have some rules about women's keeping at home..."
Of course, if you are are busy in your garden or on your own property it's still your home.
Here's the link to the original Greek:ReplyDelete