What many folks in the new "patriarchy" movement don't seem to realise, is that the husband's authority doesn't exist in a vacuum. That's why I called them Old Testament larpers in my previous post, they tend to think that the answer for all of our society problems is to go live in the desert like Abraham. I should add that it's especially typical for Americans of a more libertarian bent and probably, to some degree among the more extreme homeschoolers.
Well, guys, I'm going to ask you all a question: how did "rugged individualism" and this tactic of constantly ceding ground to "liberals" work for you? You aren't really in a much better position on any social issue than we in "godless" Europe, are you? Running away is not a solution, and it never will be. We can't go back to the Bronze Age, we live in a society which institutions are corrupted to a degree, but we are still part of it and we should strive to take it back, though it's the topic for another discussion.
What does it all have to do with the family, you will ask. Well, for starters, "family" isn't just nuclear family. Second, a family isn't a law unto themselves, there is still civil law and, for Christians, religious institutions. There are men on the internet who will complain that their wives are disobedient who will then spend their whole time online undermining church authority. Yes, churches are far from ideal. Some are cucked to an unbelievable degree, but there are still those which are quite solid. Again, instead of withdrawing why not try to improve things in your local church? Of course, that would mean taking action as opposed to *itching on the internet.
So for a Christian wife, her first authority in her life is her God. Your faith should come before everything else: He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me... and whosoever shall deny me before men him will I also deny before my Father which is in Heaven come to mind.
You don't deny your God because of your marriage partner, it's downright pathetic, and it goes for both men and women.
Really, where does this all or nothing approach come from? And what happened to the common sense? Your husband being a leader doesn't mean that you can't have ideas of your own, or that you always have to agree with his opinions. A wise woman will find a balanced way of following her conscience while acknowledging her husband's wishes, it's not really that difficult. It helps if she isn't arrogant and thinks that she always knows better than him.
Personally I think that many of these problems would simply not exist if the husband were the only breadwinner of the family. In this situation both usually know who's the dependent party, that's why feminists want all the women to work. There is also this strange woman worship so typical for Evangelicals. For Pete's sake, your wife isn't a goddess who did you an honour by marrying you and she'd be probably much worse off without you than vice versa. If your parents or your pastor forgot to inform you about it, then I'm doing it now:)
Seriously, folks, both men and women should grow up, stop this silly elite sponsored "gender war" and go back to the common sense arrangement the West used to have for the greatest part of our history. We owe it to the future generations.