How feminism crept into the Church
In front of me lies a '99 issue of Brio, a Focus On The Family magazine for teenage girls. Now I know that this organisation did a lot of good and is/was doctrinally sound ( I haven't been following them recently so not sure what they are up to now); but they made some sort of a compromise with feminism together with many other Evangelicals which finally led to them losing the current culture war pretty decisively.
Brio on its own was not a bad magazine, at least in those times, and they were really solid on many points but though they addressed things like dating in a Christian context, there was very little advice on marriage preparation, and yet many of their readers were 16-17 and older. They had very little to say about learning how to cook or clean, but quite a bit about learning how to earn money, playing sports and choosing a career. Even Cosmo used to run a recipe column in these days (may be they still do, but, of course, I'm not planning to read it).
Vice versa, the very issue which I'm talking about has an article discouraging early marriage. it is a sad story of two teenagers who fell in love, started a s8xual relationship, got married, got a child and then divorced. The author who was by the way an editor, attributed it to the fact that they didn't really love each other but just "fell in love". So far so good you'll say. You should be careful while choosing your marriage partner and I agree.
However, it goes further than this. While trying to dissuade the bride-to-be, the lady editor says among other things, that she should first go to college and have the experience of "being single" and "living in the dorm". I just wonder where in the Bible young girls are advised to move out of their parental home to some hostel so that they could get an experience of being single? Could somebody please give me the chapter and the verse?
The editor herself, I presumed was in her twenties, but when I looked at her photo she seemed to be more like in her thirties, and yet in the end of the article, she says that she is still waiting for this
perfect man right guy whom God will send her, while spending her time traveling, "going out on African safaris", writing books and "hanging out with friends".
Career and travel till your mid-thirties, while waiting for Mr. Right, how is that even different from what secular women were advised to do? At least, she was a virgin, by her admission. But how many girls of that generation followed that disastrous advice and found themselves nearing 40, single and childless?
I'm not of the opinion that everybody should marry or even marry at a certain (young age), but most people don't have a gift of celibacy and most women want to have a family and kids. Well, in this life you get what you are pursuing. If marriage is your goal, you should be proactive, yet girls were taught in some ways to live like men but concerning marriage just wait for a Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet, like some fairy tale princess (in real life, princesses were usual married off by their families at about 15).
To be continued...