We are moving together, if it works out, we'll get married, if not, we just separate.
Ever heard that one? Apart from it being a) sin, and b) a low class behaviour, from a purely pragmatical point of view, this approach is setting one up for failure. Why take such a drastic change (which often involves buying a new house together, a serious investment) when you aren't even certain "it will work" ? This attitude is prevalent in marriage too, "if it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce".
You know what? Most couples who have been married for a long time have had their share of problems, sometimes serious. They stayed together because they were determined that whatever happens, it will work out in the end. They made a commitment to making things work out. It didn't just happen by a coincidence.
This brings me to my next point. People nowadays, both men and women, but especially Western women, are terribly entitled. They are the center of the universe. They only deserve the best. They can't except anything less than perfection from their spouse/partner. If a problem arises, it's obviously never them who is at fault, they just should find someone better and more suitable. Just read an average discussion board where women congregate. One will start talking about her husband and all the rest will join and tell her: "honey, you deserve better than this loser!"
Here is the funny thing, though. If you chose "that loser" it's probably because there were no princes lining up, so that's exactly what you deserve. The chance that you'll get anything better as a middle-aged, divorced woman with kids isn't really very big. It's even easier for older folks because after a certain age you'll deal with widows/widowers, not another divorced person with a baggage.
The same goes for men, btw. Unless you are wealthy, you won't get "a nubile young woman" or whatever nonsense you read on some PUA site, but just a worse version of your own wife, plus kids of some other guy to take care of. I've seen it happen in real life, too. Divorce game only works for either very young people or those of the upper class who have more possibilities, not for the common folks.
And then there is something else. Westerners are extremely competitive. It's always "more, bigger, better" with us. Few people are just happy with what they have. Take the vid I posted previously. The lady gets lots of comments from British, French and American women who all tell her how they love what she is doing. Many of the same women just go to work the next day, often full time or close to it. They'll tell you they need money. Are we really poorer than Koreans? I don't think so.
What I noticed is that the Korean lady lives in a quite small apartment. Most of them do, even those with kids and seem content. While here in the West, families are getting smaller but the houses bigger.
There are other Eastern women on Utube, some from Muslim countries, some from India. I even watched some African TV lately. All these ladies seem to be very husband- and family- oriented, so to say. They are pleased to create a cosy environment for their loved ones. While with Western women, it's often all about themselves, even with homemakers. It's her beautiful house, it's her successful children, she is the star of her show and the husband exists as an after thought. This way of thinking is a recipe for disaster.
Most countries in the world allow divorce. Yet in Hindu India, divorces are like 2% of all the marriages while in the supposedly Christian countries it's close to 50%. OK, our governments are secular, but many people still claim the name of Christ. Are we really in a position to send missionaries anywhere?