"If you love someone set them free." This used to discourage mate guarding and fleeing temptation. Apparently, your marriage will only get better if either of the spouses will regularly spend weekends (binge) drinking with friends of
The same is, of course, true about people spending too much work time with each other, and in less enlightened times they used to joke about the (male) boss and his (female) secretary, doctors and nurses etc, but it's doubleplusungood to notice it now. What are you, some sort of
Which takes me to my next point. It was a big success of the enemies of tradition to teach people to see everything as black and white. 1950s Euro/American society had traditional sex roles and was nothing at all like Taliban yet that's exactly who you get compared to if you object to mothers working. Same with modesty. Western women used to look modest without wearing a black tent over their heads, yet if one objects to half-nude females even in the formal or sacred settings (like church) he gets accused of wishing to force women to wear burkas. On the other hand, people who object to unlimited immigration from countries where it's well, traditional, for women to wear these styles are all Hitlernazywhatever.
So you have lie number three: if you don't agree with certain things or even slightly deviate from the current party line, you are a hater who is apparently planning to commit genocide. Again, there are no degrees, simple disapproval apparently equals murder in progressive eyes. Again, common sense should be able to tell you that it's just ridiculous. Disliking certain people or disagreeing with someone's opinions or disapproving certain lifestyle choices doesn't at all mean that you are planning their extermination.
Speaking about love, here is lie number four: sexual desire or having sex with someone means love and love is the highest virtue so don't you dare to question me! Love can certainly have a sexual component, but lust doesn't equal love. Love, properly speaking, is first, attachment, and second, wishing good for the person you love. Taking care of them, this sort of thing. Mothers generally love their children. Children love their parents. It doesn't mean, well you know.
This one was/is used to undermine parental authority as well. If the parents object to the dates/prospective spouses their children bring home, they are accused of "hate". And we know that "haters" are all genocidal maniacs at heart, don't we? Well, guess what? Not wishing that your daughter dates a certain category of men doesn't mean that you hate them or wish them any harm. I guess there are more lies we have been spoon-fed but those seem to be the most persistent and the most pernicious, because most people are decent, kind people who don't wish any harm to anyone and thus are easily browbeaten into submission when accused of hatred and various -isms. Just don't fall for it any more, and remember, you don't stand alone!