The article has been making rounds which illustrates what exactly is wrong with modern "conservatives". It appears that a pastor in NYC wrote a post advising Christian men which women to avoid. As usual, he got lots of "hatemail" from offended females which hastened to point out how wrong he is to state that men should have standards when choosing a wife, and that they themselves are all "in great marriages" though they are proud feminists. This is hilarious in itself and provides for great entertainment value, but I would have never mentioned it if not for one thing.
The supposedly conservative pastor makes the following point:
There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s
wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern
American society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the
providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most
instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any
other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of
her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young
children while she’s working, then something is wrong.
The statement in itself is problematic. First, a homemaker works at home, every single day, or at least, she is supposed to do it. I can't believe that the good preacher uses the story of Lydia and totally ignores the command given in Titus 2 which for centuries has been understood as teaching that the married woman's job is to be a keeper at home. The Scriptures often describe people in less than ideal situations, it doesn't mean we should follow them when there are clear commands on how to behave.
A famous Bible scholar, John Gill, has the following to say about Lydia:
whether Lydia was a maid, a wife, or widow, cannot be said; it looks,
however, as if she had no husband now, since she is mentioned as a
Obviously, if a woman is single she'll have no other choice but to work, unless she is independently wealthy. Further, the pastor correctly states that there are distinct sex roles, but then suddenly adds that it's OK for a woman to be a professional, unless her home life suffers because of it. How can one be "the nurturer of the home" and a doctor or a lawyer at the same time, is never explained. Talk about cognitive dissonance.
Since he is not afraid to make unpopular statements, such as the one about divorcees, he probably believes that a woman can have it all together, which makes him indistinguishable from feminists he set out to criticise. The choice isn't any more between Western tradition and feminism, instead it's between feminism of the Right or of the Left. It's like watching Tweedledum and Tweedledee fight. It's little wonder the Right keeps losing. At least, the other side comes with a whole freebies package.