Are Men Entitled To Women?

 You see it often in social media debates. When men complain about women been gold-diggers or running after high status guys, some angry female will write back: "Men aren't entitled to having wives/girlfriends". 

Last time I read it, it made me think. Clearly, any individual man isn't entitled to having the affections of any particular woman. However, in a healthy society any average guy who can provide an average income should be able to find an average woman to marry and bear his children. There is a reason why polygamous societies have often been unstable compared to more monogamous ones, as this arrangement by necessity left some men out in the cold without many prospects.

I would argue, however, that our modern society is even worse. First, in polygamous societies there often was a surplus of women due to wars etc so there still was a woman for most everyone. And second, every society on Earth until now has been quite strict with enforcing chastity and fidelity on women and giving men paternity rights over their (legitimate) offspring.

Our society, on the other hand, practices soft polygamy and encourages female promiscuity/easy divorce, while restricting the husband and father's rights over his family. Even the wealthiest of men aren't guaranteed that their wives will stay faithful and not divorce them on a whim, let alone an average guy who often can't even find a girlfriend. 

Women under this system have problems, too. They are encouraged by nearly everyone in their lives to spend their best reproductive years studying/working on the career/traveling and having casual s8x with lots of guys, instead of settling down when they are at their most attractive. So later when they do want to settle down they are often left with few options. 

Both s8xes also have unrealistic expectations about each other, plus female economic freedom enables women to date losers. Since "dating" nowadays means having s8x, they often will get attached to them and somehow drift into marriage, only to realise later, when children come, that she married a good-for-nothing bum/addict/whatever. Easy divorce allows her a way out, and gives the bum a chance to ruin some other woman's life, while children grow without father with their mom "dating" again. Or, she'll be lucky enough to marry again and bring all the baggage and trauma into her new marriage, making the chance of divorce even higher than average.

All this creates a very unstable society which isn't really favourable to having many children as reflected by Western total fertility rates. 

In plain language, we are on our path to extinction and no amount of free daycare and paternity leaves will change the situation, as witnessed by Scandinavian countries. TFR of Norway is 1.4 and it's 1.5 in Sweden while it's 4.3 in Afghanistan. Now, granted, we are a bit overpopulated at the moment and don't need a TFR of 6 as in Somalia, but a healthy TFR of 2.1 would be fine. 

Easy divorce, promiscuity, late marriage and female employment are all factors in low TFR. 

Which way, Western man? You decide...

The Importance Of Christian Families

Interesting article.  

 In 1980, 33% of women had four or more children. Childlessness was rare, and the childfree movement unheard of. Now, approximately one third of millennial and Gen Z adults say they neither have nor want children. Roughly a quarter of respondents in one survey said that having children is irresponsible because of climate change. Others are unwilling to change their lifestyle or make so immense a commitment. Sterilization rates among young, childless women were already on the rise before the Dobbs ruling, and they have increased dramatically since then.

 

 

Civil War

 

 A movie review. Civil War is a 2024 American film by Alex Garland. I have wanted to watch it for quite some time, and we finally did last weekend. The story goes like this: the main character is a middle aged woman called Lee who is a photographer for the New York Times (I think). She and her two male colleagues Joel and Sammy who are both journalists decide to travel from New York to Washington D.C. through war-torn country to interview the president. A young girl called Jessie worms her way into the group because Joel likely fancies her. Jessie is very ambitious and sees Lee as her role model while Lee initially is pretty much irritated by the fact that she joins them.

The movie is called Civil War but there is little explanation about what's happening. The characters don't talk much between themselves and the half of their dialogues consists of f-words, literally. Still, we learn that the president decided to stay for the third term which evidently caused a rebellion, that he used airstrikes against American citizens and that his dwindling army is currently engaged in a 2 front fighting against the joint Texas-California forces and Florida alliance. 

Though the president is presumably a bastard, the rebels aren't shown in a very positive light, either. In fact, Sammy who is older and wiser, predicts that once they take D.C. they'll turn upon each other. He and his colleagues have to travel a long distance to the front lines and the biggest part of their journey presumably goes through the territories controlled by the rebels and yet everywhere they go they encounter totally anarchy, chaos, wanton destruction and bloodshed, with a couple of exceptions.

After we finished watching it, we wondered what was the meaning of this movie and even went to read the Wiki article. I guess, it's the type of movie where different people will have different ideas what it was all about. The way I see it, the main theme is that the types who work for the press are all cynical and jaded, largely devoid of morals and resemble vultures in the way they operate as they are only interested in sensationalism and will literally step on corpses to achieve their goals.

The film shows the transformation of Jessie into exactly such a person. In the beginning she is just stupid and manipulative, but by the last frames the transformation is complete. Of course, that's just my opinion and some (wanna-be) career gal may very well feel inspired by her character which I frankly found quite irritating, especially when you consider that she was directly and indirectly responsible for several deaths. 

The movie is an action thriller, quite fast-paced and short enough so that you won't get bored. It has graphic violence and profanity, but no s8xual content of any kind. Strangely enough, there are virtually no female warriors until the very last minutes when the group of rebel soldiers who storm the White House features a black female sergeant (so I guess a double quota was filled). For a modern film, it is quite decent. 

I would recommend it if you are into dystopian genre and don't mind gratuitous violence. My husband thought that the film had strong Mad Max vibes. 

Is it America's near future? I'd like to think, no, it isn't, but we do live in uncertain times. It may be the future of us all, who knows?

 

Happy Valentine's Day Everyone

Disturbing

 Well, what do you think?

OFFTOPIC: I'd like to remind everyone that any comment on an older post automatically goes into moderation. I just looked into it and published a couple of comments on December posts today. Also, Google sometimes spams comments. It did spam mine 2 times recently:)

Greensleeves

 

So You Want To Be A Housewife

 What now? 

Here is some free advice which too many young girls don't get from their parents any more.

Don't marry a loser. Who is a loser? Simple, a guy who can't or won't hold down a job. The most important quality of your future husband is his ability to provide an income. Now it doesn't mean you should be a gold-digger. Be realistic in your demands. Upper class men can chase girls below them in status to have a bit of fun but few will marry them. As we say in our country like attracts like.

So you future husband doesn't have to be wealthy but he should have a steady income enough to support a family. That means no starving artists/rock-stars, no eternal students, no chronically unemployed guys and no mama's boys who get a burnout from working full time. Full time is 39/40 hours by the way, not 32 and not 36. 

In general, look closely at his mother and their family dynamics in general. A man should respect his parents but be independent and self-sufficient. If he is lazy and work shy and constantly has pain in his back don't think you'll be able to change him. He'll continue to suffer from back pain sitting at home playing video games/watching Netflix while you will be out there in the cold trying to earn a living.

Let it be his parents' problem, after all, they raised him this way.

If you want to have a middle class marriage, look for a breadwinner;)

 

The Problem With Modern Women

 

Not a fan of Varg but this is good 

Found on Twitter. Yes, I eventually went back since that's an important news portal but trying to restrict my time there;)