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Thursday, July 18, 2019

The Woman Who Above All Desired Power

Note: this is a review of sorts and it contains spoilers.

And 9 rings were given to the race of men who above all else desire power

I think most of the readers will remember this quote from the screen adaptation of LOTR
(these words aren't in the book, btw). Through the ages, there have been a lot of men like this, but there also was one woman whose ambition, will to power and mental capacities were at least equal to the best (or worst, depending on how you look at it) of these men. Though her reign was many centuries ago, she is still so popular in that part of the world, that recently they made a whole TV series about her.

I'm talking about The Magnificent Century, the most famous of the Turkish TV series, which ran for 4 seasons, had 139 (!) episodes of about 1.5 hour each and was watched by approximately 200 million people all over the world. It's loosely based on the real events which took place during the reign of Suleiman the Magnificent, hence the name. I'm not really going to discuss the historical Suleiman or the lady who became his wife, but the rather the way they were presented in the series.

First about the plot, I'll try to be as brief as possible but keep in mind the length of the show:)

The story begins when 26 year old Suleiman learns about his father's death and that he is the next sultan. He has to leave the palace where he enjoyed a rather quiet existence with his consort and their young son, his only heir and moves to the capital where he meets a young Christian slave Alexandra whose family was killed by the slavers. Her slain parents come to her at night and make her promise she'll take revenge and thus her war with the whole dynasty starts.

She uses Suleiman and his feelings for her to raise to the heights of power previously thought impossible for one of her status and position. She bears him 4 sons (5 in reality, but the last one died in infancy) and 1 daughter and he frees her and makes her his lawful wedded wife. Still, Hurrem (Alexandra's new name after she converted to Islam) isn't happy because it's Mustafa, the sultan's eldest son who is the crown prince, and not one of her own. And the laws of the Ottoman Empire are harsh: there can be only one, the next sultan will kill his brothers to avoid strife. When the princes grow up, the real fight for power begins...

Sounds exciting, isn't it? And yet, I will admit: I haven't watched the whole show. I watched Season 1, parts of Season 2 and 3, and mostly read about Season 4. I have 2 reasons for it: first, did I tell you it was a soap? I simply have no patience for 139 episodes filled up with epic cat fights and deep drama:) My second reason is the fact that there are really no positive characters in the show, and if there are, they die prematurely of unnatural causes. Evil gets rewarded in the end and about the worst of Hurrem's sons gets the crown (chiefly due to the intrigues of his European convert wife who was always the brain behind his actions).

While it's historically correct, the producers of the show took already less-than-sterling characters and made them even worse. All the women are insufferable b*tches. Those who aren't in the first season, become so as the story progresses. Take the Sultan's first consort, for instance. Mahidevran actually inspires sympathy as she lost everything what was dear to her and was reduced to poverty and nearly begging, until Selim (the next sultan) came to power and restored her rights. And yet her nastiness in the show makes it difficult to feel any sort of pity for her.

Queen Mother in reality was quite friendly to Hurrem, but in the show she is the perfect evil mother-in-law who is so blinded by her hatred of her daughter-in-law that she is ready to sacrifice the lives of her own grandkids when she accuses her of adultery.

Hurrem herself is shown in a sympathetic light (and despite her obvious evilness one can't help rooting for her as we witness her fighting against the incredible odds) but in history this lady had a functioning brain and even ruled the Empire while her husband was busy fighting wars. The whole story of her relationship with painter Leo (who never really existed) is an example of an abysmal stupidity. Her daughter was more interested in political intrigues than in family life but she didn't kill her husband etc etc...

Not that the men are any better. Sultan Suleiman, the ruler of half the world, at home is totally under his wife's thumb and doesn't even realise it. Under her guidance, he alienates his whole family, causes his sister's death by his actions, kills his best friend and executes the most worthy of his sons. He also cheats on her despite all promises while in reality, all historians agree that his marriage was monogamous.

Mustafa is really good and noble, too good for this world actually; loves his brothers and promises not to kill them, loves his wife, loves his kids (probably loved his dog, too, if he had one) that's why he dies. Ibrahim, Suleiman's best friend was a corrupted, power hungry official, but the producers also made him a sadistic bully and an adulterer who broke his wife's heart and ruined the life of his mistress. There is really no historical evidence that he ever cheated on his wife and he wasn't even married to the same lady as in the show. Etc. etc...

Here you can watch a video which is a great example of what one can expect from the series: Hurrem beats up Suleiman's sister Hatice for using black magic on her to revenge the death of her husband Ibrahim. It has English subtitles, btw. Yet, my favourite moment is this one: Hurrem triumphs over her enemies in the end of the second season. Her monologue is like a summary of her whole character, where  lust for power and revenge combine perfectly. It's not enough for her to rule in the palace, she will rule the world, her enemies will kneel before her and those who stand in her way will die by fire.

Still, the show has much to offer to those who enjoy drama and the acting is very good. It also illustrates the nature of power in this world. One doesn't get power by being nice and good, one gets power by being ruthless, cruel and lacking conscience. Somewhere there is a lesson for all of us:) You can  currently watch the series on YouTube with English subtitles. If you are interested, here's the link to Episode 1.

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

The Problem Of Obesity

The new data on obesity was published by ZeroHedge a couple of days ago. It's becoming a real problem in a lot of countries, not just the USA, of course. A fairly recent study which they link to claims that:

 Adults with extreme obesity have increased risks of dying at a young age from cancer and many other causes including heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and kidney and liver diseases...

and even that extreme obesity is more dangerous than smoking:

...the researchers found that the number of years of life lost for class III obesity was equal or higher than that of current (versus never) cigarette smokers among normal-weight participants in the same study...

Being overweight and/or obese is often presented (in some corners of the internet) as a purely female issue, which is very far from the truth. For instance, in my country, approximately the same percent of males and females (50+%) is overweight. Men will often complain about their wives or girl-friends putting on weight and becoming unattractive, but the reverse is true, too. Overweight or obese men aren't attractive to women, either!

In fact, men suffering from obesity will also suffer from increased estrogen which in turn will decrease their testosterone, not only making them less masculine in the process, but also leading to all sorts of nasty diseases. (Another thing  which surprisingly increases estrogen in men is self-pleasuring. These Catholic Church fathers were right, after all!)

In short, we all of us should try to eat well and to be as physically fit as possible, not only with the objective of staying attractive for our marriage partner, but for your own health as well.

Saturday, July 13, 2019

Ultima Thule

This is so breathtakingly beautiful, I simply had to share:


Friday, July 12, 2019

Science Discovers There Is No Climate Change

Or at least, the man-made one:

Scientists in Finland found "practically no anthropogenic [man-made] climate change" after a series of studies. 
“During the last hundred years the temperature increased about 0.1°C because of carbon dioxide. The human contribution was about 0.01°C”, the Finnish researchers bluntly state in one among a series of papers.
This has been collaborated by a team at Kobe University in Japan, which has furthered the Finnish researchers' theory: "New evidence suggests that high-energy particles from space known as galactic cosmic rays affect the Earth's climate by increasing cloud cover, causing an 'umbrella effect',"...

And here I was sitting doing penance for driving a car:)

Anyway, every cloud has a silver lining. The new climate agreement actually demands planting trees, which is a good thing and they are even making moves to restrict plastic use in EU. Anyway, as I have stated before, if they were really serious about fighting "climate change" they would restrict immigration, discourage high level of consumption (two income families) and subsidise public transportation. Instead, they are in the business of selling solar panels and electric cars (which are quite expensive). So it's really just about woke capital, and nothing else...

Thursday, July 11, 2019

The Problem With Patriarchy?

First, I'd like to make it clear that I'm not talking about "the patriarchy" which oppresses modern women with deodorants and air-conditioning, but rather about so-called "patriarchy movement" which became popular among fundamentalist Christians in the USA, especially in home-schooling circles.

Are there problems with this movement? I'd say yes. It appears to me that their ideal society is not a New Testament Church and not even an Old Testament Temple but the Bronze Age nomadic existence and being totally withdrawn from any form of society, hence their accent on the role of the husband as the king, priest and prophet of the family. Their ideas about marital obedience are more extreme than those of Muslims:

Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient...

says the Quran. 

As you can see, female obedience is conditional upon men financially providing. I heard that in some Islamic countries the failure of the husband to provide a living is grounds for divorce. Yet, the supporters of the patriarchy movement will often tell you that it doesn't matter if your husband is an unemployed alcoholic, you still have to obey him in literally everything, including the colour of your shoes.


They are also very suspicious towards the Church.  The Scriptures teach us that we should not be forsaking the assembling of ourselves together,  
as the Church was founded by Christ and is His Bride, and yes, I know many churches are corrupted, but by no means all of them, yet to listen to some of the people talk, there is no church to satisfy them (apparently they consider themselves to be in sinless perfection). 

Of course, being a church member means being under the church authority and it "undermines" the authority of the husband in some ways, so the patriarchy adherents can't agree with it. For instance, if you are a Roman Catholic woman married to a husband who isn't a Catholic and he asks you to use anti-conception, you can't do it since your church officially teaches it to be a (mortal) sin and your church's authority will overrule that of your husband. The same holds true about education since a Catholic promises to raise his children in the Catholic faith.

I could give you more examples, but I guess you know what I mean. Another thing to consider is that the nuclear family doesn't exist in the vacuum, like many of these folks would like in their libertarian fantasies. There is extended family to take into account and the laws of the society. You can't just go live in a tent like Abraham did. That extends to the marriage rites. In every Western country there is an established form of getting married, acknowledged by both church and state, thus the ideas of some men that you could just live together "but be married in God's eyes" don't hold  water.

There are more things one could say about them,  but that's just a couple of points which first come to mind.


Tuesday, July 9, 2019

How To Live To Till 100

and other things:)

Here is a suggestion.  Actually, a lot of it is just common sense (and coincides with my research about countries with the least cancer cases).

Eat lots of veggies, drink green tea instead of coffee, eat more sea food, be a positive person, exercise etc etc. Still, a good reminder and nice to see it all summed up in one article.

In other news, Roosh becomes a vaccine sceptic (!)

Saturday, July 6, 2019

How To Trigger A Feminist

It's actually quite easy. They even get triggered by stuff happening in other countries which  most normal people would just laugh about. Reading the comments made me understand MGTOW a bit better:)

(WARNING: language)

Thursday, July 4, 2019

Global Warming And Other Stuff

The temperature fell to 8*C this night. Yet, I bet most people outside of Holland were unaware of this fact. The Euro heat wave of the last week, on the other hand, got a lot of attention. Where I live, we got exactly 3 warm days, 2 in the beginning of the week and 1 last Saturday. It was +32*C and to hear some people talk, it was nearly the end of the world.

An article I read on ZeroHedge (of all places) mentioned how 20 000 people (!) apparently died from heat in France in 2003. I dimly remember that it was a really warm and dry summer, but nothing about the calamity in France, or at least, I don't remember it at all. Of course, we didn't have weather apps back then and nobody checked his phone every few seconds to look if a record were broken. It was warm, or not so warm.

So I found a blog which has some interesting info on the topic and thought I'd share. I'm rather  skeptical about the whole thing. That said, there are real environmental problems we are facing, and some of it is due to the Save the Climate Industrial Complex, like this:

In many countries, wind turbines pose the single greatest threat to bats after habitat loss and white-nose syndrome. In some places such as Texas, where white-nose syndrome, a deadly fungus, has only recently arrived, wind turbines are the single greatest threat to bats.

And not only bats, but also birds and insects. 

I also don't hear them talk that much about estrogen pollution due to the Pill, plastics and agriculture (personally I think that all the plastics outside of military and medical use should be banned). 

Speaking about various medications, apparently (some) antibiotics increase one's risk of cancer. 
And do you know who is fed antibiotics? Your poultry and other farm animals. I'm glad that at least in Europe, they are trying to restrict it. Go for biological if it's at all possible. Well, it's all for today, till next time!

Monday, July 1, 2019

Is Deodorant a Tool Of Patriarchy?

Apparently that's what some folks  on the left think.  Folks on the right rush to defend a product which may very well be toxic. 

This is just another example of the dog and pony show which is modern politics. You are presented with a choice: either be a feminist and blame everything on the mythical "patriarchy" or be a consumerist and support woke corporations. Of course, it's a false choice, because you don't have to be either of these things, that is, you can freely reject both. 

Here I'm going to make a confession. I don't use a deodorant. Haven't used it for like 10 years or longer. I don't stink. I shower and change my clothes regularly. Shaving your arm pits, especially in summer, helps, too. BTW, I recently switched to showering with warm water only (no shower gel or soap, just like cavemen regimen suggests) and I haven't noticed any difference. Warm enough water and some scrubbing do wonders, unless you work in a coal mine. 

So no, deodorant isn't a tool of patriarchy. The US of America isn't patriarchy by any long stretch. In fact, it's like the ground zero of feminism. But, it's also the ground zero of consumerism. And corporations don't really care about your well-being, they only care about making money. I'm quite proud that I'm cheating them out of some of it:)

Saturday, June 29, 2019

Warm Weather Lunch




Easy-to-make yogurt soup. Should be served cold. Take full fat unsweetened plain yogurt and dilute it with cold water to desired consistency. Add sliced cucumber and boiled eggs (cooled), dill weed and salt. Serve with cheese sandwiches. Enjoy!

Friday, June 28, 2019

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

Woke Capital Makes Your Dreams Come True

(Or, may be, nightmares???)






I mean which one of us hasn't dreamed of eating insects for breakfast or grilled worms for dinner? Especially when you can feel so virtuous about saving the planet from climate, too!

Friday, June 21, 2019

I'm Back!

Comments moderation is switched off. I'll write more later!

Monday, June 17, 2019

A Short Personal Note

I'll be out of town for a couple of days. Comments moderation will be on till Friday.

Houdoe!

Friday, June 14, 2019

My Take On The Game Of Thrones

So because everybody was talking about it, I finally decided to learn more about the series and watched a couple of episodes,  read the plot summary and episodes description on Wiki and watched the ending.

On the positive sight: the visuals are great, beautiful scenery, costumes etc create a certain fairy tale atmosphere to the whole show, which is probably one of the reasons so many people watched it.

On the negative side: unnecessary vulgar and unnecessary cruel (as most recent American TV shows). When they killed this poor innocent wolfs cub, that did it for me. I happen to have a weakness for wolf-like dogs:). Plus occult themes, female warriors and the fact, that as far as I could understand, it gets soapier as the story progresses and most interesting male characters die.

For instance, Khal Drogo and his love story with the blond girl made for an interesting plot twist, but then he dies off in the end of the Season 1 and Daenerys turns into some sort of a feminist darling.  (I think Vox Day claimed on his blog that J. Martin hates alphas and I think he's on to something).

So the progressives were so disappointed when she got killed in the end that apparently 1 million people signed an online petition to change the ending while the reactionaries rejoiced because Bran Stark became the next king. Yet, as far as I can understand, he's unable to have children so after his death the whole mess will start all over again. The throne should have been inherited by Jon Snow or how is that guy called, instead he's sent off into exile to the Wall and presumably will stay celibate?

I further listened to this audio by VD where he pointed out that Stark sisters hardly have any prospects reproducing, either. One sails off into the West, the other one becomes a queen in her own right, without any marriage candidates in sight. It somehow reminded me of Brideshead Revisited by Evelyn Waugh which tells us the story of a downfall of a noble Catholic family. Of 4 children, one son turns a gay alcoholic, the other marries a woman many years his senior who is unable to bear children any more, one sister turns a nun and the last one after her divorce decides she's too Catholic to marry again, and has all the chances to die childless, too.

If that's a victory for Starks, how does defeat look like? Isn't the whole point of hereditary monarchy to have, you know, heirs? The ending of the whole saga is just as sterile as the whole modern Western worldview. It's hardly a victory for traditionalists. Anyway, that's just my point of view, feel free to share yours in the comments!

Wednesday, June 12, 2019

Natural Hair Care Update

Some time ago we had a great discussion about natural hair care tips. Soon after this I switched to totally no shampoo method and have tried several things like honey (h/t to Finnish Housewife), chamomile tea and henna.

While I still use henna now and then, to boost the colour a little bit, I have finally decided to just use plain water and nothing else. Well, in my previous post on the topic I recalled how I had done it once before long ago and my hair looked terrible. This time, on the other hand, it worked, probably because I have gone without shampoo for a long time already.

In fact, my hair looks better than with any other methods I have tried so far, I save on the products (honey, e.g., is quite expensive) and cheat woke corporations out of their income:) What's not to like???

Saturday, June 8, 2019

Grounbreaking News: Latest Scientific Discovery About Sex

It may lead to pregnancy!!! Who would have thunk????


Researchers at the University of Michigan announced Tuesday that a comprehensive, decade-long study has discovered a strong correlation between sexual intercourse and pregnancy in women—a groundbreaking conclusion that is sure to have far-reaching implications.

According to Dr. Michael Citino, who led the study, nearly every one of the tens of thousands of test subjects had engaged in sexual intercourse at least once in the several months immediately preceding pregnancy.

(Emphasis mine).

Read the whole story over here.

Our New Cat






Isn't she a beauty?

Wednesday, June 5, 2019

Is Housework Difficult?

There are some men among us who call themselves anti-feminists and yet, they  demand their (prospective) wife works. They will admit that if there is an infant or a pre-schooler in the house he will need a supervisor, but once he goes to school or generally becomes of an age to take care of himself, the mother must work at least part-time, to justify her existence.

One of their chief arguments is that housework in our day and age is easy and doesn't take much time and thus any housewife except mothers of very young children, is just a lazy good-for-nothing.

It once again shows that many of the so-called antifeminist males are just frauds and want to both have their cake (a submissive wife who  keeps the house) and eat it, too (and she is a capable breadwinner at the same time), but that's beside my point. I just wanted to look deeper into the claim about modern  housework being easier than say, a 100 years ago. Well, it depends.

(Another thing to consider is the fact that most men's jobs are also easier than they used to be, btw. Many of the guys decrying housewives are hardly working in the coal mines, themselves but are some sort of an office drone).

Many households at that period still had servants, including cooks, especially in the countries like the UK. The amount of the housework the well-off women did was minimal. On the other hand, poorer women missed such labour-saving devices as a washing machine. Washing by hand is one heck of a job. But...they also had less clothes and washed them less often, etc etc.

It also depends on your housekeeping standards. I heard that, e.g., in Turkey women are famous for washing all of their windows at least once a week and cooking elaborate meals 2-3 times a day. Obviously, it will take you longer to accomplish your work if your standards are that high and you cook all your meals from scratch.

On the other hand, there is a thing about housework: you can't always calculate the exact amount of time you spend on it each day in the same way you would do if you had outside employment because some things fall into a grey area. Taking your children to and from school (no school bus for us here in Europe, sorry). Helping them with housework. Taking the family dog out. Helping a sick neighbour with shopping. Taking kids to the dentist. Running errands and doing paperwork. Visiting an elderly relative etc etc.

While it's not really hard labour, it takes time AND energy and when you get older, you'll start noticing that your energy levels are going way down (men don't often realise that many women are lower energy than themselves because they are physically less strong and lack testosterone). Another thing men complain about is how bad modern women look. They are all fat, badly dressed etc. Well, taking care of your appearance  and gym take time, too, and so does shopping for fashionable clothes even if you do it online. The time which isn't spent in any productive pursuits, but leaves the husband satisfied.

So is housework difficult? It's generally less physically exhausting that it used to be in the past, true. However, there are still lots of things around the house which need to be done and only so many hours in the day. If your wife or girl-friend spends her hours at home chatting with other men online and cheating on you while you work, it's not because housewives are obsolete but because she's a lousy person. That's it.

Monday, June 3, 2019

On Bearing A False Witness Or In Defence Of Evangelicals

We went to church yesterday. We often do, on Sundays:) And, we got a guest preacher. Nothing strange about it, either, since our own preacher only works part-time. The sermon was good. Like really, really good. It's not always the case with visiting pastors. Sometimes you come out of the church and think along the lines that you hope never to see the guy again. OK, I'm exaggerating, but you get my point.

The real temptation lies in the fact that once you've heard a couple of sermons like this, you start thinking that may be, the whole church thinks along the same lines and you are just an outlier. You start wondering whether you belong...

And then you get to hear a different perspective and you suddenly realise, that even in a more or less traditional denomination, there will be a variety of opinions and one or even two or three preachers don't represent everybody. And that we don't have to agree on every single thing to worship together.

Of course, it's even more true when we talk about Christians in general, or Evangelicals or Catholics. There is like one billion Catholics in the whole world, and they can't all have exactly same opinions on everything and even the underlying doctrines will probably be explained differently in different countries and situations. There are also many, many millions of Evangelicals and they aren't all alike!

Some fully deserve the name of evangellyfish, while others are really fine, upstanding Christians. Even in more liberal churches, there still will be some people who are saved, while in the more conservative ones there will be an amount of wolves in sheep's clothing. Yet, there is this unfortunate tendency on the internet to take some controversial figure with a vaguely Evangelical background and then extrapolate that every single Evangelical thinks the same! 

Evangelicals, btw, are  such an easy target precisely because the meaning of the word is so broad and vague. Unlike Catholics, or strict Reformed churches, they often don't have a clearly defined doctrine. Pentecostals and Independent Fundamental Baptists both could call themselves Evangelicals. We could be speaking about some mega-TV church providing endless entertainment and little besides that or a strict rural Southern Baptist community. To add to the confusion, some Lutherans and Reformed folks call themselves Evangelicals, too.


We know that the Catholic Church has problems with child abuse. How fair would it be to state that because one (some) priest(s) engaged in abuse, it means that ALL the Catholics support it? Well, it's the same with the Evangelicals. Just because one or even some celebrity pastors preach some nonsense or even false doctrine on the TV, it hardly means that each and every person calling themselves Evangelicals agrees or that ALL churches which have  "Evangelical" in their name, are corrupted. Well, some undoubtedly are, while other aren't.

Now I don't at all have any problems with criticising them on some of their teachings, like Rapture or other things. I just don't like blanket statements which I see so often nowadays in  certain corners of the internet. Sometimes it borders on giving false witness, imo, which should be a warning sign for any professing Christian that those criticisms aren't genuine and aren't made in good faith.

I'll give you one example so that you know what I mean. Evangelicals are often attacked for their "pedestalising" of women which I would more or less agree with. The tendency is present, but is it really their fault or that of the broad American society? They are also accused of being too soft on women who divorce their husbands claiming some vague "abuse". The funny thing is that their progressive opponents often accuse them of being too harsh on women and teaching them to stay in abusive marriages. (Well, I guess you just can't please everyone).

For instance, the critics claim, Evangelicals and "Conservative" and even "Traditional" Christians in general (have you noticed how the goalposts get moved yet further?) support divorce for viewing p0rn. They then will pull out some obscure statement and parade it as the ultimate proof that EVERY SINGLE ONE Evangelical AND a Conservative Christian agrees. Well, I've done a quick Google search on the subject of "P0rnography and divorce" and the first three results which came out disprove it.

Pure Life Ministries states:

Given the biblical insights into the intended permanency of marriage, I feel it is my first obligation as a biblical counselor to encourage perseverance and offer hope to any wife who’s dealing with her husband’s sexual sin. Even if the Bible offers a way out, that doesn’t make divorce the best option for every person in every circumstance. 

When Jesus condoned divorce for reasons of sexual immorality, I believe He was referring to those who were in ongoing, unrepentant fornication with another person. Furthermore, He said Moses only permitted divorce due to the hardness of our hearts, but reiterated that from the beginning it was not so...

 Many biblical scholars have concluded that the Scriptures do support divorce in a situation when a spouse is in unrepentant sexual sin, including pornography. However, others say this conclusion is not at all clear. Regardless, I would still encourage you to make sure this is how God is leading you, and also to remember that He really does hate divorce.

Christian Life Resources says that There is the reality in a world of sin that none of us are without sin (John 8:7; Romans 3:23). If we are looking for formulistic justification for divorce, and all of our hearts can be read, could our spouses find justification to divorce us?

And a Southern Baptist  pastor  offers a similar take: Divorce is always a last resort, and thus we should not immediately commend divorce because a person engages in pornography, especially if the use is singular or even occasional. We must immediately say, from the perspective of wisdom, that any use of pornography is egregious and heinous; there are no excuses for looking at pornography. At the same time, we don’t want to say that any use of pornography justifies divorce.

All three sources are rather evasive on the topic, saying that there could be some situations when divorce would be permitted but they hardly sound enthusiastic about this option. So, their position could be viewed in a charitable light (they are trying to walk a thin line between the reality of the 21st century liberal America and the Scriptures), or in an uncharitable light (They are really man-haters and love divorce).

So why am I writing all this? Because I sincerely believe that this attack isn't only on Evangelicals (I'm not one of them), but on the Christians in general, and it uses  really existing social problems like feminism, divorce etc, to make Christians distrust any form of organised religion and further drive a wedge between men and women. Just because some preacher out there is an ***hole, it doesn't mean that you should never go to church again. Not All Preachers Are Like That! And not all the churches, either.



Friday, May 31, 2019

If Money Is Tight

Here is an example of what you can do to stretch your dollar/euro:


Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Still Watching Netflix, Pro-lifers?

Ancient Christians were ready to be martyred for their beliefs. Modern Christians can't even give up their entertainment:

...Netflix has taken virtue signaling to a whole new level...
“We have many women working on productions in Georgia, whose rights, along with millions of others, will be severely restricted by this law,” Chief Content Officer Ted Sarandos said in a statement.
“It’s why we will work with the ACLU and others to fight it in court. Given the legislation has not yet been implemented, we’ll continue to film there, while also supporting partners and artists who choose not to. Should it ever come into effect, we’d rethink our entire investment in Georgia.”

Netflix To Boycott Georgia Over Anti-Abortion Law 

Dear Christians, corporations aren't your friend. Corporations aren't about "muh free market". They aren't even so much about making money any more,  but about promoting bugman lifestyle all over the world. I disagree with Roosh about some things, though. Boycotting may not always work (and sometimes you can't avoid buying their stuff because you really need it and there is no alternative), but it surely doesn't include mindless entertainment and frivolous luxuries like overpriced coffee.

UPDATE: And now Disney is following suit.  Yet, woke capital is perfectly OK with filming in countries where abortion is punishable by jail.  You see, it's not really about abortion but about hatred of everything Western and traditional.

Monday, May 27, 2019

What Is Worse Than Soy?

Genetically modified soy. Attention, men, it will give you blue *alls, too:

The experience of actual GM-fed experimental animals is scary. When GM soy was fed to female rats, most of their babies died within three weeks — compared to a 10% death rate among the control group fed natural soy. The GM-fed babies were also smaller, and later had problems getting pregnant.
When male rats were fed GM soy, their testicles actually changed color — from the normal pink to dark blue. Mice fed GM soy had altered young sperm. Even the embryos of GM fed parent mice had significant changes in their DNA. Mice fed GM corn in an Austrian government study had fewer babies, which were also smaller than normal.

Read the whole article over here

Friday, May 24, 2019

For The Nerdy Among Us

Being a life-long Tolkien fan, I'm well aware about the controversies surrounding his works. There is enough material online for those interested which will discuss (sometimes) at length whether there is occult in his books and whether they are good for Christians to read. While I really like The Hobbit, and most of the LOTR, I have always felt uncomfortable about Silmarillion and never could finish it, aside from a short humorous retelling of that story.

In fact, last time I tried to read it when I was in my mid-twenties, I started getting vivid nightmares and was forced to quit. It's rather a depressing reading overall, so I don't think I really missed much. Tolkien was really obsessed with Elves. In fact, personally I think his Hobbit is the best of his books because one sees so little of them and they don't come across as particularly great. Lord of the Rings has Legolas in it which is OK, but then it also has Galadriel whom I always have found rather irritating.

 One can attribute it to female jealousy, perhaps, but I have the same general feeling about all the passages which deal with general greatness of Noldor. (And why do they worship Manwe's wife instead of Manwe himself? Sounds rather matriarchal to me). Anyway, if you have read Simarillion or have a general idea what it is about, Noldor don't come across as particularly great, noble or enlightened though the author keeps telling us they are.

It's interesting that though Catholics nowadays find it expedient to claim J. Tolkien as one of their own, when he first tried to publish his stories about Valinor in a Catholic magazine in the 1930s, they were apparently rejected under the guise of being "too heathen". Of course, it was before Vatican II and "anything goes" attitude. Anyway, I'm not particularly troubled by the elements of heathen mythology in his books, otherwise we as Christians wouldn't be able to read the original myths, either, and even when I was a kid I was able to distinguish fairy tales from real life.

Still, I find some aspects of Silmarillion troubling. Recently I listened to a radio program about Gnosticism and its dangers and it dawned upon me. Was J. Tolkien a Gnostic? Here is an interesting discussion which I found and yes, some (Internet) Gnostics claim him as one of their own (as do the Neo-Pagans, by the way).

If you have any thoughts on the topic, feel free to share in the comments! Different opinions are appreciated.

Saturday, May 18, 2019

Are You Better Than Anyone Else?

Here is this unfortunate tendency among right-wingers to be holier-than-thou, which is probably the inevitable result of incessantly criticising modern society (not that it doesn't need criticising, but still...) I can understand secular folks engaging in it, but when I hear professing Christians day after day tearing other professing Christians down, I'm like is it really necessary?

Because guess what? You aren't better than anybody else. You are just a sinner like this pastor you hate so much or this single mother you keep calling a wh*re. They aren't perfect but neither are you. We live in the fallen world which is growing less Christian by the day (at least, here in the West) and everything in it is tainted by the sin Yes, we are called to speak the truth, but we should be speaking truth in love, especially when it concerns our Christian brothers and sisters.

I mean where is charity? Why is it that some folks always assume the worst about other Christians? I've seen it time and again when such topics as divorce come up. While some misguided Evangelicals will go around blaming the men, there are just as many on the opposite side blaming the women. Guess what? I've seen wives divorce good husbands AND I've also seen husbands walk out on their wives. Neither sex has a monopoly on evil.

Some will cite statistics showing how many divorces are initiated by women as the proof of the unique female wickedness. However, the one who files isn't necessarily the one at fault. If the wife is banging her boss and the husband files is he to blame or what? The truth is that all divorce nowadays is no-fault, which means that there is absolutely no way to determine whose fault it was.

Moreover, you can't contest a divorce. You'll always get it. The only thing you can contest is property division and custody, which means that people don't really have to give any reason for divorcing even when asked. Most prefer not to air their dirty laundry in public and will cite "irreconcilable differences" or some such nonsense, which again, doesn't really prove the guilt of either party. The only remedy to this problem would be to go back to fault-based divorce, which many men activists somehow don't propose, though they are quite vocal about abolishing child support which makes cynical me think that it's not divorce per se they are really against.

Going back to single mothers (and here I mean those with kids outside wedlock), there is this unfortunate tendency among more liberal Evangelicals to portray women as victims of men in everything concerning sex. I've read an article recently where the author suggested that the pill was the tool men used on women to free themselves from responsibility. Well, I guess one could view it this way. One could also say that the pill freed women to be sluts, and it would be true, too. Because, you know what? Women also enjoy sex! Especially young women with raging hormones. The pill frees BOTH sexes from responsibility.

So on one hand we have (some) pastors presenting single moms as saintly victims of men's passions. And on the other hand? We have (some) men going on and on about how every one of these women is a horrible human being, past any redemption and how no man should ever want to do anything with them and if anyone ever suggests otherwise, he's just shaming men into "marrying these sluts". Let's be honest: yes, single moms have what could be called "baggage". But...some men in the church will have baggage, too. They could be recovering addicts, ex-criminals, or simply have children from past relationships with attached financial obligations. It's not like all the men are perfect and deserve a perfect spouse, either.

Yet while reading some blogs that's exactly an impression I get. Women come with baggage, like debt, past relationships, abortions etc while all men have a perfect credit score, great job and no bad habits of any sort. It's a mirror image of what feminists are saying about men and I don't see how it is any better. It's not healthy to go around hating half of mankind.

There is a certain arrogance behind this attitude and it's not healthy. Hatred is in any case not a good motivation though one could argue that it's sometimes necessary like during the war. However, if left unchecked, hatred will quickly consume you. As a Christian, I don't want to be motivated by the hatred of other, those who are trying to destroy us,  but rather by love for my own, my people, and I believe in second chances.

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Our Summer Cottage

Our new project and the reason I have so little time lately:)






There is still a lot of work to do, as you can see.









My kitchen garden.




A big part of it is still wilderness, but I kinda like it this way.





The lawn was in a horrible state and the grass is still not doing fine plus we have regular visits from a mole:)





The view from the terrace is nice tho









And we have a hotel for insects, too. Right now there is a spider residing there, killing other guests periodically:)




So that's my latest news...

Friday, May 10, 2019

Toxic Femininity In Action

When a Bankstown father went to help a young woman in need, he never envisaged his act of kindness would turn his life into a nightmare.
But that's what happened to 36-year-old Kenan Basic.
He had been accused of indecently assaulting and stalking a 19-year-old woman he had helped after her car broke down at a BP service station in Sydney's west in late 2018.
On Monday, the charges against Basic were thrown out in Bankstown Local Court after the woman admitted to making it all up.

Why would any man in this day and age help a random woman? Kenan Basic learned his lesson:

Basic also admitted he probably won't stop to help another woman again, and that the matter had "destroyed" his marriage.

For better for worse is a patriarchal construct. Seriously, shame on his  wife for abandoning her husband and the father of her children  in this situation and believing a perfect stranger above someone she chose as her life partner. 

7NEWS has also been told Basic, who spent two weeks in jail, will pursue costs and compensation and will be back in court in July.

That should be the default position of anyone in a similar situation. Don't just turn the other cheek and let it slide, get legal help and sue. 

I should add that there is a reason such things tend to happen so often in the Anglo-countries. It's probably because we continental Europeans don't quite worship women so much and don't see them as default victims in any interaction with men. I'm sure there is a lesson somewhere...

Read the whole article over here.

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

The Importance Of Warm Lunch






A lot of folks nowadays are getting health conscious and dissatisfied with the standard Western diet. They generally disagree on what is really healthy and often will simply exclude certain food categories. For instance, vegans won't eat animal products, while paleo supporters will severely limit or eliminate grains and sugar etc.

What I have noticed while studying traditional diets, is that people in these cultures cook more than we do and eat less of "cold meals" such as sandwiches. Even in Southern (and Eastern Europe) they will often eat at least two (if not three) hot meals a day.Strangely, there isn't much info on the internet about warm vs cold foods, however, I did read somewhere that warm breakfast improves fertility and also that hot food is more easily digested, boosts metabolism, helps fight allergies and improves health. (Source).

So today I decided to make soup for lunch and tried Hungarian mushroom soup which turned out great. The instructions are very clear. I did some small adjustments as I used several types of flour instead of just white flour.

It's my opinion that he also omitted a couple of small details, as you'll have to bring the soup to cooking point after adding the chicken stock, and then you turn the heat down and let it simmer. My other suggestion is to bind the milk or cream by bringing your soup to the boil for the second time and add sour cream to individual portions. This way you can re-heat it next day and serve again.

Friday, May 3, 2019

The Strange Culture Of Mauritania

Mauritania produces an impression of being stuck somewhere in the antiquity, which I find strangely fascinating. It obviously has a lot of problems, such as slavery or the lack of medical care, but, on the other hand, there is a low incidence of psychological disorders, and AIDS is almost nonexistent

It probably has to do with their tight clan structure and sexual mores. Here is some info which I found on the internet which gives us a glimpse into a very traditional (to a fault) society:

About food:

Food has important social and psychological functions. People eat together in groups from a large bowl or calabash, using the right hand. People eat first and then drink cold water or sour milk mixed with cold water, juice from the hibiscus flower, or baobab juice. After lunch and dinner, it is customary to drink small glasses of green tea with sugar and mint. The tea is served by younger persons, women, and slaves... Eating almost always takes place at home.

Social customs:

  Society is organized along strict ethnic lines, with a rigid system of castes; every caste has its own internal hierarchy. In both ethnic groups, the division of labor is clear. At the top are the religious and warrior caste, followed by the skilled caste, which consists of smiths, carpenters, weavers, fisherfolk, and leather workers. Historians or court bards, musicians, and court advisers form a lower caste, followed by the theoretically freed slaves and current slaves at the bottom of the social order. 

    Dress style, comportment, and speech are dictated by the climate and ethnic heritage. Putting on one's best clothing is important in black African communities to express one's social status. Women decorate themselves with gold, silver, and amber to display their wealth and change clothes several times during a party. People in the higher castes to tend to be quiet and generous toward those below them, whereas the lower castes tend to be talkative, outgoing, and "greedy," with less concern about shame. Generally people are kind and hospitable to foreigners.

Welfare:

Social welfare is provided for within the family and kinship system. Government-supported welfare is nearly nonexistent because of a lack of funds, nepotism, and corruption.


Family and marriage:

Culturally, women's importance is recognized, but men dominate in the economic, political, social, and religious spheres. In the south, men provide for the family and women process and cook food and take care of children. In the Arab-Berber north, women are not supposed to perform physical work, which is seen as degrading. Work there is the domain of  slave women...

 Marriages usually are arranged, especially the first marriage... People tend to marry for the sake of their parents and community and usually marry within their community and clan... According to the prevailing value system, all adults must marry and have many children but it is not unusual to find unmarried women, particularly among the white Maurs...

Economic aspects of marriage are very important. Men are responsible for the economic sustenance of their wives and for brideprice, along with lavish gifts to the parents, relatives, friends, and associates of their wives. Divorce is not common, especially in the black communities... If divorce is the fault of the man, the wife keeps the brideprice. According to tradition, children follow the father, but small ones remain with the mother and the husband is obliged to support her and the children until they grow up. 

  The basic household unit consists of a husband and his wife or wives plus their children and the family of the husband, but household units in urban centers are getting more compact. The man has authority in the household because the couple lives with his kin and he is normally older and richer than the wife. Even though the household is an extended family, tasks are sharply divided according to gender and age... 

  In this extremely traditional society, belonging to a group is very important, and the larger the group, the better. People use clan names rather than family names. When the climate and economic conditions allow it, larger kin groups form a village or neighborhood. Clan members interact by sharing land and engaging in interclan marriage. The male leader, normally the oldest and "most competent" man, manages communal property and affairs.

Education:

Child care is provided by the older members of an extended family and the first born child is looked after by the grandmother and aunts. Women, including older sisters and cousins, take care of children, and men come into the picture as a child grows up. Infants are not separated from adults and are nearly always carried.

  Education is based on a combination of three overlapping philosophies: indigenous, Islamic, and Western. In the first system, the objective is to prepare the young to be useful members of the local community. Education is thus inward-oriented and functional and is provided by parents, elder siblings, peers, and specialized traditional teachers. 

The key values are belief in God, honor, respect, and service to the community, generosity, hospitality, endurance, and patience, Islamic teaching prepares Muslims to serve Allah and the community of believers by learning the Koran and practicing the five pillars of Islam. The most important qualities in a "good" child are respect and service to the parents and the community, truthfulness, learning, prayer, and politeness. Parents believe that children are what they inherit and learn from their parents. If the mother is of good character, her children will be good.

If you are interested, read the whole story over here:


They may be having lots of hardships and wrong things going on, but one thing they don't have: the crippling loneliness and social isolation of modern life, what we call "bugman lifestyle". It's also probably easier to endure hardship when you have a sense of belonging and are certain that your life has a transcendental dimension to it.

Thursday, April 25, 2019

Some Thoughts On Authority

What many folks in the new "patriarchy" movement don't seem to realise, is that the husband's authority doesn't exist in a vacuum. That's why I called them Old Testament larpers in my previous post, they tend to think that the answer for all of our society problems is to go live in the desert like Abraham. I should add that it's especially typical for Americans of a more libertarian bent and probably, to some degree among the more extreme homeschoolers.

Well, guys, I'm going to ask you all a question: how did "rugged individualism" and this tactic of constantly ceding ground to "liberals" work for you? You aren't really in a much better position on any social issue than we in "godless" Europe, are you? Running away is not a solution, and it never will be. We can't go back to the Bronze Age, we live in a society which institutions are corrupted to a degree, but we are still part of it and we should strive to take it back, though it's the topic for another discussion.

What does it all have to do with the family, you will ask. Well, for starters, "family" isn't just nuclear family. Second, a family isn't a law unto themselves, there is still civil law and, for Christians, religious institutions. There are men on the internet who will complain that their wives are disobedient who will then spend their whole time online undermining church authority. Yes, churches are far from ideal. Some are cucked to an unbelievable degree, but there are still those which are quite solid. Again, instead of withdrawing why not try to improve things in your local church? Of course, that would mean taking action as opposed to *itching on the internet.

So for a Christian wife, her first authority in her life is her God. Your faith should come before everything else: He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me... and whosoever shall deny me before men him will I also deny before my Father which is in Heaven come to mind.
You don't deny your God because of your marriage partner, it's downright pathetic, and it goes for both men and women.

Really, where does this all or nothing approach come from? And what happened to the common sense? Your husband being a leader doesn't mean that you can't have ideas of your own, or that you always have to agree with his opinions. A wise woman will find a balanced way of following her conscience while acknowledging her husband's wishes, it's not really that difficult. It helps if she isn't arrogant and thinks that she always knows better than him.

Personally I think that many of these problems would simply not exist if the husband were the only breadwinner of the family. In this situation both usually know who's the dependent party, that's why feminists want all the women to work. There is also this strange woman worship so typical for Evangelicals. For Pete's sake, your wife isn't a goddess who did you an  honour by marrying you and she'd be probably much worse off without you than vice versa. If your parents or your pastor forgot to inform you about it, then I'm doing it now:)

Seriously, folks, both men and women should grow up, stop this silly elite sponsored "gender war" and go back to the common sense arrangement the West used to have for the greatest part of our history. We owe it to the future generations.

Wednesday, April 24, 2019

A Short Personal Note With Revelations

I'm entertaining visitors right now which means I have little time for creative writing, plus the weather over the weekend has been WARM, like +23*C or even higher. Please bear with me, I'll try to post more soon!

Sunday, April 21, 2019

Easter Sunday

I wanted to post some nice music, but in connection with events in Sri Lanka I'll just leave you with this link from Vox Day


Friday, April 19, 2019

Thursday, April 18, 2019

The Wages Of Narcissism

are death sometimes:

A recent report found that 259 people died between 2011 and 2017 while stepping in front of the camera in often dangerous destinations. Our writer went deep on the psychology of selfies to figure out what's behind our obsession with capturing extreme risk-taking.

 The article titled Selfie Deaths Are an Epidemic first gives the readers several examples of self-inflicted deaths and injuries and then proceeds to claim that it's not really narcissism, but evolutionary developed behaviour which is "part of our very DNA". 

I can still remember the times when attention wh*ring was considered nearly as bad as the real thing and thoroughly discouraged in children starting at the young age. Funny thing is that the article suggests a nearly similar solution (taking selfies should be discouraged) with tech companies doing the policing.

 I'm not really sure they will succeed since the problem appears to be more spiritual that technological. But that's just me...


Monday, April 15, 2019

A Fellow Housewife Reviews My Book

Housewife Outdoors was kind enough to review my second book, The Road To Power, which is now available on Amazon as well. That's what she writes:

The Road To Power is a space opera, like The Long Way Home, taking place in the same universe. Otherwise it is very different book and independent story with new characters. There is more political schemery and sligthly less action. There is still plenty of action and adventures, but the speed is not quite that breath-taking. I appreciated that a lot. Plot is very unpredictable (that seems to be typical to Sanne), I had to read to page 70-something before I got any idea where the book is going and still plenty of surprises waited for me. Gothic family secrets, sword duels, beautiful adventuresses and elven queens, spies and assasinations. 

You can read the whole review over here


Friday, April 12, 2019

Another Advantage Of A 2 Income Family Model

is that you will hardly have any free time at all, so that you'll never get bored:

A new survey finds that the average American adult logs just four hours and 26 minutes of time to themselves in a given week.

And if that amount seems high, you’re also in good company. Four out of 10 people surveyed said they get even less free time than that total, incredibly.


The survey of 2,000 adults... also found that the little bit of free time leaves the average person with 14 undone items on their to-do lists — though one in five respondents says there’s at least 20 things to get done on their lists. Those lists include everything from running errands to paying the bills. The authors found that 60% of the participants are putting off basic administrative tasks like cleaning, going to the bank, or filing their taxes because they don’t have the time.

 Among the tasks most commonly brushed aside by the study participants, cleaning topped the list, with 48% of adults postponing such chores. Another 40% admit they’ve put the brakes on car maintenance, while a third routinely push back plans to go shopping. More than a quarter of Americans (27%) said they put off making a doctor’s appointment.

Read the whole article  over here and pay attention to the comments by the boomers along the line of "I worked 20 hours a day, kept the house and had PLENTY of free time, you whiners!" Because people exist solely to work for the Woke Capital and pay the taxes. Now if we only could get children back to factories, everything would be fine. Meanwhile, the wives of billionaires are stay-at-home moms...

Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Vaccinations, Natural Health And Other Things

Vaccinations appear to be a hot topic in Christian circles. I'll state right away that I'm not a believer in conspiracy theories, stuff about aborted babies and things like that. I don't see vaccines as a moral issue, I look at them purely in the terms of health. I also don't believe that vaccines don't work, with an exception of flu vaccine. The question is, do they work as intended?

While vaccines may prevent some infectious diseases, there is a theory that the overuse of vaccinations leads to such chronic diseases as, for instance, cancer. 

How dangerous is measles anyway? I'm sure we've all heard scary stories about the high mortality rate of measles (and I'll be honest with you, my parents had a neighbour who became blind from measles, but it happened after the war when nutrition wasn't optimal). Here is at least one doctor who says, not really. Yet the amount of scaremongering which goes around is unbelievable. The funny thing is that the exactly same arguments are used to promote flu shots (high mortality rates, everyone will die, etc etc).

I'll tell you about my personal experience with vaccinations. In my youth, there weren't so many. I've got the one with diphtheria and tetanus on time, but my mother waited with MMR until I was 4 and had to go to school. I still remember how sick I became, I had fever and was ill for several days. Short after this, they had to take my appendix out and had they been 5 minutes too late, I'd probably die as the thing exploded in the surgeon's hands. After this, I've had all sorts of health problems through my youth, all connected with low immunity. Was it a coincidence? I don't know...We do know though that it's the MMR which is notorious for its complications and autism connection.

As I became older, flu vaccines started spreading. My mother worked in healthcare and could always get them for free. She insisted that everybody in the household got his flu shot every winter. And each year I took it, I was horribly sick. Then I married my husband and stopped taking them. One year I would be sick, another I wouldn't. Last couple of winters we took cod liver oil from Norway and had no problems with flu whatsoever.

And then there is something else to consider. When I took this ill fated MMR shot, I was told that I'd get a lifelong immunity. But now it appears that the immunity only lasts 5 till 20 (30?) years. They don't know themselves, but they are pushing everyone in the risk groups to get vaccinated yet again.

Now let's talk about whooping cough. I think it sits in the tetanus shot which I got several of while growing up and which my mother once nearly died from as she got a severe allergic reaction to it. Supposedly you'll never get whooping cough, either? Wrong. I'm pretty sure I got it while in my early twenties, as I had all the classic symptoms including night fits when I felt like I was coughing my lungs out. The doctor looked at me and said it was tracheitis, though. I think you get my point?

Again, I'm not entirely against vaccinations. Wouldn't take my chances with polio or tetanus, but things like chicken pox? A couple of years ago every child used to have it, but once the vaccine became available, they are spreading the same scary story about it like they do with flu and measles. I wonder I survived it (and yes, I got some complications, but they weren't so bad).

Another example is the HPV vaccine. They started pushing it on girls first, now in some countries they want to vaccinate boys, too. (One died from it). If you are against the vaccine, you are called a religious bigot. I read a bit on the topic. It appears that 95% of all women will get a HPV infection at least once in their lives, yet only 1 in 10 000 will ever develop the dreaded cancer and that mostly in her 50s, up to 40 years from her first infection. Now there is something fishy going on, don't you agree? It's like they claim that somebody who had measles can 40 years later get a stroke and die, and that happens from measles. Yes, they seriously push this story.

Ultimately, vaccinations are the parents' choice. Most vaccinated children are doing quite fine and won't have any severe side effects. Whether it's really necessary and a wise thing to do in every case, is quite another thing. This post is getting rather long, so I'll split it in two and write more about the modern medical system another time.

Monday, April 8, 2019

Another Example Of Female Oppression

Wicked Western patriarchy used to prevent women from taking part in such fun events like, for instance, the Battle of Paschendale:




Luckily, at least in the USA, equality appears to have won and women are now subject to draft, too. I hope they'll enjoy it as much as the men did...

Sunday, April 7, 2019

On Marital Submission

Marital submission is something which feminists decry, as we all know, however, the other side sorts of makes a mess out of the concept, too. Some will reduce all marital problems to the lack of wifely submission: the husband won't lead? Or he is a heavy drinker/lousy provider/watches p*rn/whatever? Just submit, and all the problems will go away.

I'm afraid it's not that simple. Some people will say that the husband can't make his wife submit, it's a free gift. I wonder, if these people have ever been in leadership positions? I have, and let me tell you something, a leader needs to have certain qualities to make his subordinates submit to his will, and it's not always easy, but nobody will take you seriously if you lack character and a backbone.

I have come across a discussion of this very topic on a certain forum where someone asked whether the wife should treat her husband as the leader of the family and one answer stood up to me: "a man is either a leader or he isn't, it doesn't depend on his wife." I agree, more or less, with a caveat: the wife shouldn't try to undermine her husband's leadership, but the principle remains:

 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD,

The way I view things, wifely submission is not about punishment or oppression. It actually makes a woman's life much easier. Think of it, the one who takes the decision is the one responsible when the things go wrong. Every time I enforced my will over my husband's objections, I came to regret it because I kept second-guessing myself. The burden of responsibility is just too heavy for an average woman, that's why they are probably so neurotic nowadays.

Another point, marital submission doesn't mean the husband can force his wife to go against her conscience. While I'm not a Catholic myself, I liked this quote from a Catholic blog (h/t Jesse Powell):

... the church...bids the wife obey her husband in the Lord; but asserts her moral independence of him, leaves her conscience free, and holds her accountable for her own deeds.

Betraying one's moral code on behalf of someone else, even your own husband, will bring nothing but grief and disappointment and can destroy you as a person.

It's also important to understand that the man's authority doesn't exist in a vacuum, as there are still such things as family connections, civil authorities and, for believers, the church. The husband can't disregard them. We live in society so that right wing Christians should, imo, stop larping as some OT patriarch:)

If you have any ideas of your own on the topic, feel free to share in comments!



Wednesday, April 3, 2019

The History Of Women In The Workforce

apparently coincides with the history of family breakdown. I'd like to draw your attention to the post by Jesse from Secular Patriarchy where he discusses these things.

Here is an excerpt:

From the source “100 Years of Marriage and Divorce Statistics United States, 1867-1967”, page 27 of 68, it gives the number of marriages in 1867 as 357,000 and the number of divorces as 10,000 for a divorce rate of 2.8%. According to Census data in 1870 13.1% of all females over age 10 worked, this proportion rising to 14.7% in 1880 and 17.0% in 1890. Again based on Census data in 1890 2.2% of married white native women with native parents worked, this proportion rising to 3.0% in 1900. This shows very clearly that divorce was already in the process of rising in 1870 and that women working was already in the process of rising in 1870; rising divorce and rising women working being fundamental parts of family breakdown.