Friday, December 1, 2023

What Boomers Did Wrong

 There was a lady once whose husband left her so she had to work. She got lucky, however, as she met a wealthy man who married her. They moved to a remote village where he bought a house. His job demanded that he'd go on business trips so that his wife was quite often alone, and, frankly rather bored at times. However, he was adamant about his wife staying home. What should I do then, when you are away? she asked. Our children are grown and live separately.

So her husband went to the store and came home with...a sewing machine! That's what you are going to be doing, he said. And she's been doing it ever since. 

"Based," you''ll say. There is one caveat to the story. The man in question didn't at all mind when his daughters turned to be feminists with a (high-powered) career. In fact, he encouraged them. And herein lies the problem with that whole generation.

Boomer men, at least in my country, in their majority didn't want their wives to work because they correctly estimated that when a woman has an income of her own, she is inclined to have her own way and doesn't really need her husband as much as when she is fully dependent on him. They were quite dominant and expected to be the boss at home. 

And by exactly the same reason, they raised their daughters to be feminists. Because the daughters were all little princesses and you can't expect a princess to submit to some unworthy guy, can you now? She is too good for that. So they taught them to be independent. Just like charity begins at home, feminism does, too...

Wednesday, November 29, 2023

Should Older Women Cut Their Hair Short?

 I'm not going to tell anyone what to do with their hair. I just wanted to share an old joke.

The husband comes home and first thing he sees, his wife had her long hair cut off. 

"How do you like my new haircut?" She asks. "This greyish long hair made me look so old. But I don't look like an old woman any more, do I?"

"No", the husband answers. "Now you look like an old man."

Please don't throw stones at me:) BTW, I think it's perfectly fine to dye the greying hair some nice colour. Preferably using natural dyes like henna. 

Monday, November 27, 2023

She Really Loves Money...

 I had a couple of conversations recently with/about women of totally different backgrounds and even ethnicity, yet the story I heard was the same.

One lady told me she basically doesn't need to work and her husband wouldn't mind if she quit, but she really loves money and independence it gives. To paraphrase: "Because if I quit, I will have to ask my husband's permission to buy stuff, and I really like buying stuff."

The other lady is older and keeps complaining about her bad heath, back pain etc but keeps on working close to full time, though, as her colleague reliably informed me, she has a wealthy husband, adult children and no need to work at all. When pressed, she said exactly the same thing: "I really love money and independence from my husband it gives."

I do find such honesty refreshing. No sappy stories about "how I really LOVE my job" and "what is there to do at home?" just the plain truth. That goes for the majority of the working women, btw. It's not entirely their fault, as modern society promotes money-making abilities and wealth as the only existing virtue. In fact, someone even joked that just like in Medieval times you had Earls and Dukes and Knights we have titles like "a billionaire". So the guy said, we should go further and just address people by the contents of their bank accounts.

So instead of the aristocracy and commoners we'd have a Hundredaire and a Thousandaire as opposed to a Millionaire and a Billionaire. 

Wherever this current Western culture comes from, it's not from the Christian religion: For the love of money is the root of all evil...

Saturday, November 25, 2023

The R8pe Of Narnia

 This is just horrible. 

However, I should say that what currently is called "woke" stuff started creeping in already during the life of Lewis. Remember the order in which the books were written? The Lion, The Witch And The Wardrobe: girls don't fight, Prince Caspian: girls don't fight, The Voyage Of The Dawntreader: girls don't fight, The Silver Chair: girls don't fight, Prince Caspian: girls suddenly do fight and that makes them (Lucy) good and noble as opposed to wicked Susan only interested in fashions and men. Remember who didn't get to Heaven?

This nonsense started after WWII, and I'm sorry but I do blame Hollywood and broad American culture in general. When Lewis' books started getting popular overseas, he changed with times. Another example would be The Guns Of Navarone (spelling?). The original book, written shortly after the war has NO women in it. Zero. 0. Yet, the Hollywood adaptation from late 1950s/early 60 suddenly has 2 (one a traitor) and they are both eye candy. They also wear flirty colourful dresses with decolletes (that's exactly what I would wear when fighting in the mountains, lol).

I sometimes visit Greek Ortho church. The older generation women even now tend to wear all black long dresses. In those times they wore black headcoverings, too. But never mind...

Wednesday, November 22, 2023

The Housekeeping Schedule That Actually Works

 I tried one from Darla Shine's book Happy Housewives which I reviewed on my blog several years ago, with some changes to adapt it to my situation. So far I'm content the way it goes and decided to share it with you:)


the floors. For me it means I vacuum all the 4 levels and wash the floors everywhere, plus the cats' feeding bowls when I clean this area and then I do the kitchen sink and working area, too. 


I start with one load of laundry, and clean the bathrooms.


This is my main laundry day, when I change the beds, tablecloth etc. Plus, I get to fold Tuesday laundry, too. I usually do 2 loads.


If there is some extra laundry, I finish it this day. For the rest, it's dusting/area cleaning.


This is the day to take it easy:) Laundry is all done by now, and I fold the rest so that the house looks neat for the weekend. You see, we currently don't have a dryer, and my husband dislikes laundry racks in full sight during weekends. Then I do a short vacuuming, only two floors instead of 4. And some shopping.


is the principal shopping day in our household, we take the car and go to Aldi. That's about it.


the day of rest. Only necessary stuff like making beds etc. Hope it may be helpful for someone. 


Sunday, November 19, 2023

Catholics Are Also Christians

 Here is a disclaimer: I am not a member of the Roman Catholic Church, and I don't even like it that much. However, it doesn't change the fact that Catholics are Christians and our brothers in faith. Catholic believers (as opposed to cultural Catholics) don't need to be converted to an American style Evangelicalism, they don't need lectures on how to "be born again", they don't need a Protestant style "revivals", Americans don't need to send missionaries to the predominantly Catholic cultures etc etc. I hope you get my point.

If past religious wars have taught us Europeans anything, it's the need to be tolerant. That doesn't mean we can't criticise each other or learn from each other. But leave people be. They already chose what they believe in. Have a bit respect. BTW, I don't understand this conversion zeal, either. That is, I can understand when it's dealing with non-Christians. But every Christian denomination (that includes Catholics, btw) is obsessed with going to areas populated by a different variety Christians and trying to convert them to their own particular version of religion.

Here is the good news for you: you don't need to belong to a particular church to go to Heaven, you just need to have saving faith. One finds it in a Baptist church, another in a Catholic one, the third is Greek Orthodox. An important thing is that the church is theologically sound, of course, but people born in a certain tradition will still predominantly look within their own denomination. For instance, while I am not entirely satisfied with the condition of the Protestantism in the Netherlands, I'm still not planning to become a Catholic.

So I can perfectly well understand that a believing Catholic will may be look for a more conservative priest but won't attend my church. In the society where most people are agnostics at best, religious battles between various shades of Christians can wait till better times.