Family Update

My father-in-law died this morning at home at 5.45 am. The last week was rough. Thank you everyone who prayed.

The Demon Of Divorce

This video is from a Catholic perspective, but will probably be of interest to anyone who supports traditional marriage and family:

Speaking Of Respect

I got this comment on one of my recent posts:

It would be nice if housewives were extended the same gracious acceptance of personal choice that other women are extended. (By Elspeth)

While it's bad enough in the USA or in my own country, it all pales in comparison to UK. BBC recently did a segment about a lady who chose to be a housewife and the reactions of woke twitter are well, judge for yourself:

https://mobile.twitter.com/BBCTalkback/status/1219590395954368512

I don't want to link to it directly because reasons. But if you don't care for reading through triggered progressives' diatribes, I'll post a summary:

NAZI! HITLER!!! WHITE SUPREMIIST! HITLER!!!!!!!! THIRD REICH!!!!! BREXIT!

Congratulations, Great Britain! Your progressives have officially reached the levels of insanity wokeness previously thought only possible in Sweden since staying home and taking care of your family now apparently equals being a Nazi.

Britain yes!

Bees On Thot Patrol

Queen stingless bees face a greater risk of being executed if they do not remain faithful to one male, new research has found...

Scientists said queens which mated with more than one worker were more likely to produce infertile offspring, otherwise known as diploid males.

 The colony will then execute the queen because the offspring are defective and cannot reproduce...

Scientists found that the queen doubled her chance of being executed if she mated with two males.   

Read the whole article over here. 

Working Women Vs Housewives

Disclaimer: I'm not writing this post to pile on working women, and I know that some probably don't have a choice; while, on the other hand, we all know women who stay home but do little housework or mothering. That said, housewives are often confronted by working women, in real life and online, and accused of laziness, because the said working women have this strange idea that they both earn an income AND do the same amount of work at home, which is very obviously not true, and I'm going to prove it.

A mother who works any amount of hours outside home while having children of preschool age is quite obviously NOT spending this time with her children hence not mothering them. Any woman who uses after school care, help of granny or a nanny, idem ditto. They will tell you that they are with their kids in the evening, well, and so is a stay-at-home mother! Quality time after working 6 to 8 hours and commuting while quickly coking dinner is a myth.

Speaking of cooking, working women will tell you that they, too, cook. Someone told me she cooks once a week and freezes her dinners. While it's better than fast food so many families exist on nowadays, it's not equal to making dinner every day from fresh ingredients, the way a normal housewife does.

Shopping for better ingredients and bargains takes up a lot of time, too, and guess what? Many working people nowadays do all of their shopping online and have it delivered to their house. Since they pretty much outsource it, you can hardly say they do the same amount of work.

As for housecleaning, it's something which is difficult to compare since all the homes are different. Yet I keep hearing of women who clean their bathroom once in 3 (!) weeks or  single ladies living in a small studio apartment which hardly takes much time to clean or couples who have parents (!) cleaning their houses while they both work comparing themselves to someone who has a decent size family home with a garden and a family with small kids.

It's simply the cold hard truth that there are but so many hours in the day and if you spend them working away from home or hanging out with friends, you aren't spending this time working at home or taking care of your kids, so no, dear working lady, you are very clearly not doing the same thing a full time homemaker does.

 Again, I'm not attacking working women, just gently reminding them that housewives don't appreciate catty comments about them "wasting their time and potential at home" just like a working lady would probably get angry if told that she was just a paper-pusher in some office or something similar. If modern society is all about "choice" than the choice to be a traditional homemaker should be respected as well.

Fatherlessness Map Part 2 - My Thoughts

Here as promised, just a couple of things which make one wonder.

First, let's compare two African countries, Mali and Kenya: Mali consists of 95% Muslims and has 1% children living in single parents households, vs respectively 84.8% of Christians in Kenya and the amount of single parent households comparable to that of the Western countries (16%).

Next, you have 12% of single parent households in Germany, a country with lots of Catholics (and even less in a predominantly Catholic Poland) vs 21% in Protestant UK and 23% in Protestant USA.

Does it mean that Islam is superior to Christianity and Catholicism to Protestantism? Obviously, as a Protestant Christian myself, I don't think so and here is the proof: according to the data from the blog called Secular Patriarchy in 1867 the divorce rate in the USA was 2.8%, the total of all women working around the same time was 13.1%  while the illegitimacy rate even as recent as a hundred years ago was only 2%.

So, what changed? Jesse Powell and one of my commenters both tie it up with married women working outside home, and while it's definitely a factor, I think there is more to this. I don't know whether in Kenya more women currently work than in Mali (which could very well be true), but every Muslim country has laws that will be based on their religion, which even though it allows divorce, strongly discourages it. Catholic countries typically have stricter divorce laws, too. I know that in Germany you have to live separately for at least one year to be granted a divorce.

Now, to quote Jesse again: Due to the introduction of no-fault divorce where either the husband or wife can initiate a divorce simply as a matter of choice without having to prove “fault” of the other party the divorce rate went from 25.8% in 1960 to 48.1% in 1975.

There are many people out there who will tell you that laws don't really matter, but it's hardly true. Scriptures actually teach us that the law exists for the lawless and disobedient, which  every society has its share of, and the absence of the legal framework to contain them will only embolden them further and drag  others into the ruin.

Looking at the history of the family breakdown in the West one can't help but wonder whether it was all by design. 

Fatherlessness Map

Image comes from here. Any thoughts? I'll post mine tomorrow.