Christians And Divorce

Here is an interesting series of articles on this topic.

To briefly summarise it, there are basically two Christian positions on the issue. Roman Catholic Church and some Protestants believe that marriage creates an unbreakable bond which means that remarriage after a divorce is adultery. The Catholic Church does give annulments for cases where they argue that the true bond was not formed.

The other point of view is that of Eastern Orthodox and many Protestants. It states that while the marital bond ought not to be severed by divorce, it can, in fact, be severed. Thus remarriage doesn't necessarily constitute adultery though the guilty party can be prohibited from remarrying as a punishment. The author argues for the 2nd position, I should say, quite convincingly. 

What are your thoughts on the issue? Remarriage or not?

About Smartphone Addiction

Someone asked me a question about it. Yes, these darn things are very addictive, I know from personal experience, unfortunately. And the big companies want it this way. In fact, there are several lawsuits running about this very topic right now:

Instagram's parent company Meta and Google's YouTube face claims that their platforms deliberately addict and harm children. TikTok and Snap, which were originally named in the lawsuit, settled for undisclosed sums...

Mark Lanier delivered the opening statement for the plaintiffs first, in a lively display where he said the case is as "easy as ABC," which he said stands for "addicting the brains of children." He called Meta and Google "two of the richest corporations in history" that have "engineered addiction in children's brains."

... He emphasized the findings of a study Meta conducted called "Project Myst" in which they surveyed 1,000 teens and their parents about their social media use. The two major findings, Lanier said, were that the company knew children who experienced "adverse events" like trauma and stress were particularly vulnerable for addiction; and that parental supervision and controls made little impact...

He also showed internal Google documents that likened YouTube to a casino, and internal communication between Meta employees in which one person said Instagram is "like a drug" and that employees are "basically pushers."

 You can read the whole article over here. And here is another one on the same topic from CNN. 

So yes, it's not all in your mind. The only advice I can give (and it doesn't work perfectly) is to acquire a laptop (you can buy them quite cheap second-hand, at least where I live), install it in a permanent place (connect the printer and speakers to it so that you don't face temptation to take it everywhere with you) and use it for browsing. Use your phone for phone stuff and may be sending messages/WhatsApp. If it's possible for you, use WiFi at home while on your phone and disconnect it from 4G so that you can't surf the net while outside. You still can use it for emergency situations. I know it's easier said than done though but it might help;)

Bill Gates And The Current Scandal

Several years ago, when it became known that Melinda Gates decided to divorce her husband, I distinctly remember how many men's activists blogs were all talking about "frivolous divorce'', how women are "never haaappy'' "tingles", "even rich men can't have a lasting marriage nowadays, so never marry, guys" and similar stuff. Because if the wife files for divorce, she never really can have a valid reason, right?

Well, I don't know, may be their divorce had something to do with this:

Bill Gates has issued a forceful denial of allegations made by convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein claiming the Microsoft co-founder contracted a sexually transmitted disease from Russian women and secretly provided antibiotics to his then-wife Melinda. The claims surfaced Thursday (January 30) as part of a massive document release by the U.S. Department of Justice.

The allegations appear in draft emails Epstein sent to himself in July 2013, which appear to be written from the perspective of Boris Nikolic, Gates' longtime science adviser at the time. According to the Daily Mail, the emails claim Nikolic helped Gates "get drugs, in order to deal with consequences of sex with russian girls" and was asked to provide antibiotics that Gates could "surreptitiously give to Melinda."

 
Funny, it appears that Melinda did give a reason for the marital split at that time, which you wouldn't know about from reading the Manosphere (I didn't):

 Gates and Melinda divorced in 2021 after 27 years of marriage. Melinda has cited her ex-husband's relationship with Epstein as one factor in the split. Melinda hired divorce lawyers in 2019 after learning about Gates' repeated meetings with the convicted pedophile.

Not-so-frivolous after all, eh? Many of these activists are just as toxic as feminists and probably sponsored and encouraged by the same people, with one objective: to prevent family formation and further suppress the birth rates. And if you are at all social media savvy, you should have figured out by now who is really behind it.

A New Trend In American Christianity

Read about it over here

Faces Of Feminism: The Good, The Bad And...The Ugly?

Facebook must be some sort of spyware. I don't even have a Facebook account yet it somehow managed to find me and to push me some sort of short story (in Dutch) which I then got hooked on and ended up reading all of it. And that is what I want to talk about today.

It starts with a woman throwing her partner's teenage son's dirty laundry out of the window and declaring that she is not a cook and not a maid and is not going to take care of him any more. Let his father do it. The boy and his father then stage some sort of protest and keep leaving food and dirty dishes everywhere until she decides to kick them out. 

Women below in the comments applauded (predictably).

The story left me wondering. There are so many details we don't know. First, they are evidently not married since she says something along the lines of deciding to live together with a man, not his son. (This is her first mistake). The story insinuates strongly that both he and his son are freeloaders (the son plays computer games the whole day), yet if the man is such a loser why on Earth did she move together with him? Whose house is it? Presumably hers since in the end she decides to change the locks. But again, something in that particular guy must have attracted her in the first place, didn't it? 

Does she work? Does the guy work? Who is the main breadwinner? Why did the son move with them in the first place? How old is he really?

There are a couple scenarios which come into my mind. Number one, the guy is a total moocher who moves into her house and sponges off her while not contributing financially and refusing to do any housework and then invites his son who is just such another. In this situation, her reaction is understandable but her decision to let him in in the first place is not. In fact, it portrays her as a total idiot (sorry) who finally gets some sense, not a victim of some imaginary patriarchy or whatever the story tried to convey.

Or may be it's an average couple (what passes for family nowadays) where the woman works slightly less hours than the guy and thus does laundry and cooking (and the guy, in fact, asks her since she already did it for him, why would she refuse to do it for his son). Then the son probably quarrels with his mother and decides to move in with the father and his new girlfriend. If we presume that his father provides for him what then is the lady's problem? Her children aren't mentioned at all so she probably has none. 

Why on Earth can't she be more maternal and show some love to a troubled teenage boy (I think the story mentions that he is still at school so he can't be really that old), especially since she is already in love with his father? While women of other cultures pride themselves on being hospitable, caring and maternal, Western women apparently should pride themselves on being total b8tches nothing of the sort.

But then, a decent woman from a traditional culture wouldn't have moved in with a man she wasn't married to. Her family wouldn't have allowed her to...

For My Reader From Texas

Well, it took me some time but I finally did check your links yesterday evening. 

For the record, here they are:

Legion of Men

Pearl Davis

https://theeconomiccollapseblog.com/68-percent-of-americans-consider-the-condition-of-the-economy-to-be-poor-as-millions-of-u-s-consumers-reach-their-breaking-points

Just a couple of thoughts. Concerning the 1st video, I really had no idea that Americans have it so bad. What about your president fixing economy and stuff? Compared to this, we still have more or less decent life over here, even people who live on welfare and can't afford a car. 

As for Pearl, yeah, I'm not a big fan of her but as I'm lazy I won't do any fact checking and just take what she says about divorce at face value. There are two things I'd like to point out. First, despite the American divorce system which she criticises, according to her statistics, Hindus and Muslims somehow manage to have pretty low divorce rates which means that you still can have a normal family even with easy divorce laws. Which really makes it shameful for Christians to divorce so much. Especialy considering that Islam allows divorce and Christianity forbids it.

However, and this is my 2nd point. If you are a Christian, please keep in mind that if you want to have licit s8x and avoid fornication, marriage is your only option. And if you really don't want to marry, it's fine. Just stay single and celibate (or at least try to). Again, our divorce system is different and men do pretty well in it, BTW, the divorce rates started climbing in the 1990s when married women started working en masse. There was even scientific research which proved that the more hours the woman works the higher her chance of divorce. So make your own conclusions.

Your last link is more like the summary of the first video. 

I do appreciate the discussion so feel free to express your thoughts in the comments below:)

Is Neoliberalism Good For You?

An interesting article (and discussion) by Keith Woods:

 If there’s a lesson from economic history, it’s that ideology is a poor guide. The most enduring systems are those that allow markets to channel ambition and creativity, but draw pragmatic boundaries when they threaten the stability of families, industries, or the nation itself.

 

Christians And Phone Addiction

 An interesting article:

Today, there is widespread concern about what screens do to the developing brains of children and adolescents. But adults are not immune to the pull of the screen and its detrimental effects. Surveys show that, on average, adults spend 4–6 hours a day on their smartphone and check their phone around 200 times per day. That means adults are spending roughly 75 full days a year — two and a half months! — on their smartphones. And even the self-reported impacts of this are sobering. Almost half of Americans admit to having a problem with digital addiction and over half of Americans want to cut down on phone usage in order to improve their mental health, increase their attention span, get better sleep, or improve their physical health.[1] Clearly, all this device usage is affecting our brains and our bodies.

Class Structure And Wives Working

 Funny and so true

 

Some Good News For A Change

 Church attendance in Britain is increasing. Partly due to immigrants though (as per comments) and only in conservative churches.

Girlboss Pilot And Toxic Males/Girlboss Strikes Again

 

Is Witchcraft Real?

 An interesting article on this topic:

 In brief, witchcraft is an ideal avenue for the postmodern view of life. The modern view understood life and religion through scientism. Due to its focus on the methods of natural science, scientism rejected organized religion and the existence of anything supernatural. The ideal faith of the modern view was atheism. The postmodern mind, however, both recognizes that science does not have all the answers and is skeptical of organized religion. For example, many postmodern thinkers claim to be “spiritual, but not religious.” The combined emphasis on personal subjectivity and skepticism toward organized religion is the fertile ground in which witchcraft has grown.

Are Men Entitled To Women?

 You see it often in social media debates. When men complain about women been gold-diggers or running after high status guys, some angry female will write back: "Men aren't entitled to having wives/girlfriends". 

Last time I read it, it made me think. Clearly, any individual man isn't entitled to having the affections of any particular woman. However, in a healthy society any average guy who can provide an average income should be able to find an average woman to marry and bear his children. There is a reason why polygamous societies have often been unstable compared to more monogamous ones, as this arrangement by necessity left some men out in the cold without many prospects.

I would argue, however, that our modern society is even worse. First, in polygamous societies there often was a surplus of women due to wars etc so there still was a woman for most everyone. And second, every society on Earth until now has been quite strict with enforcing chastity and fidelity on women and giving men paternity rights over their (legitimate) offspring.

Our society, on the other hand, practices soft polygamy and encourages female promiscuity/easy divorce, while restricting the husband and father's rights over his family. Even the wealthiest of men aren't guaranteed that their wives will stay faithful and not divorce them on a whim, let alone an average guy who often can't even find a girlfriend. 

Women under this system have problems, too. They are encouraged by nearly everyone in their lives to spend their best reproductive years studying/working on the career/traveling and having casual s8x with lots of guys, instead of settling down when they are at their most attractive. So later when they do want to settle down they are often left with few options. 

Both s8xes also have unrealistic expectations about each other, plus female economic freedom enables women to date losers. Since "dating" nowadays means having s8x, they often will get attached to them and somehow drift into marriage, only to realise later, when children come, that she married a good-for-nothing bum/addict/whatever. Easy divorce allows her a way out, and gives the bum a chance to ruin some other woman's life, while children grow without father with their mom "dating" again. Or, she'll be lucky enough to marry again and bring all the baggage and trauma into her new marriage, making the chance of divorce even higher than average.

All this creates a very unstable society which isn't really favourable to having many children as reflected by Western total fertility rates. 

In plain language, we are on our path to extinction and no amount of free daycare and paternity leaves will change the situation, as witnessed by Scandinavian countries. TFR of Norway is 1.4 and it's 1.5 in Sweden while it's 4.3 in Afghanistan. Now, granted, we are a bit overpopulated at the moment and don't need a TFR of 6 as in Somalia, but a healthy TFR of 2.1 would be fine. 

Easy divorce, promiscuity, late marriage and female employment are all factors in low TFR. 

Which way, Western man? You decide...

The Importance Of Christian Families

Interesting article.  

 In 1980, 33% of women had four or more children. Childlessness was rare, and the childfree movement unheard of. Now, approximately one third of millennial and Gen Z adults say they neither have nor want children. Roughly a quarter of respondents in one survey said that having children is irresponsible because of climate change. Others are unwilling to change their lifestyle or make so immense a commitment. Sterilization rates among young, childless women were already on the rise before the Dobbs ruling, and they have increased dramatically since then.

 

 

So You Want To Be A Housewife

 What now? 

Here is some free advice which too many young girls don't get from their parents any more.

Don't marry a loser. Who is a loser? Simple, a guy who can't or won't hold down a job. The most important quality of your future husband is his ability to provide an income. Now it doesn't mean you should be a gold-digger. Be realistic in your demands. Upper class men can chase girls below them in status to have a bit of fun but few will marry them. As we say in our country like attracts like.

So you future husband doesn't have to be wealthy but he should have a steady income enough to support a family. That means no starving artists/rock-stars, no eternal students, no chronically unemployed guys and no mama's boys who get a burnout from working full time. Full time is 39/40 hours by the way, not 32 and not 36. 

In general, look closely at his mother and their family dynamics in general. A man should respect his parents but be independent and self-sufficient. If he is lazy and work shy and constantly has pain in his back don't think you'll be able to change him. He'll continue to suffer from back pain sitting at home playing video games/watching Netflix while you will be out there in the cold trying to earn a living.

Let it be his parents' problem, after all, they raised him this way.

If you want to have a middle class marriage, look for a breadwinner;)

 

The Problem With Modern Women

 

Not a fan of Varg but this is good 

Found on Twitter. Yes, I eventually went back since that's an important news portal but trying to restrict my time there;)

The Doctrine Which Caused The Most Damage

 Yes, I'm going there:)

In my opinion, it's undoubtedly OSAS as in "once saved always saved" with caveat. Obviously Reformed churches have traditionally taught "perseverance of the saints" which basically means that if you show the fruits of salvation in your life and persevere in following the Bible's teachings you'll go to Heaven, while many Baptists teach Lordship Salvation and claim that God will rather cause your death (hence "mortal" sin) than allow you to do something really bad and lose your salvation.

So it's not a new doctrine. What is new is undoubtedly the "carnal Christian" stuff or like someone described it, the idea that while Jesus Christ is your Saviour, Satan can still be your lord and master and you don't need to change your life at all (because it would be doing "works"). I even read some people claiming that you can drop your faith altogether and basically become an atheist and reject God totally or start practicing Wicca or whatever and still keep your salvation.

We can thank this teaching for so many people today claiming the name of Christ and never repenting/continuing to live sinful lifestyles. Another variant of this very pernicious doctrine which was popular in my country around mid 20th century is the belief that once your child is baptised he's automatically "elected" and will go to Heaven no matter what and that Hell basically doesn't exist.

One thing to consider is that Martin Luther had never taught such nonsense:

The Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod believes and teaches that it is possible for a true believer to fall from faith, as Scripture itself soberly and repeatedly warns us (1 Cor. 10:12; 1 Peter 5:8; 2 Peter 3:17; Heb. 2:1-3, 3:12-19, 6:4-8, etc.).

Such warnings are intended for Christians who appear to be lacking a right understanding of the seriousness of their sin and of God's judgment against sin, and who, therefore, are in danger of developing a false and proud "security" based not on God's grace, but on their own works, self-righteousness, or freedom to "do as they please."...

 A person may be restored to faith in the same way he or she came to faith in the first place — by repenting of his or her sin and unbelief and trusting completely in the life, death and resurrection of Christ alone for forgiveness and salvation.

 

A Serious Question To My Readers

 Does ADHD exist? Especially adult ADHD? That is, the behaviours those diagnosed exhibit, surely exist, but is the real reason behind it a disease called ADHD or something else? Like anxiety, PTSD, lack of sleep, poor parenting, childhood trauma and other things? 

Do you think it should be treated with drugs or differently? Also, how to know if an irritating person you have to deal with has ADHD or is just an a88hole? And how do you deal with them in both cases?

Feel free to write your honest opinion on the matter:)

The Role Of Women In Society

 An American man agrees with Taliban. Well, basically:)))

And then there’s the issue of authority. Females should not be in positions of authority over males. It’s just not natural. I mean, men are supposed to be the leaders, the protectors, and the providers. Females are supposed to take care of the home and raise children. That’s their role in life.

I remember when I was growin’ up, my mom was always at home cookin’ and cleanin’, takin’ care of me and my dad. She didn’t need some fancy job or career to make her happy. She was happy takin’ care of her family, and that’s what females should be doin’. Not runnin’ around tryin’ to be cops or firefighters or whatever other nonsense they think they can do.

 From the comments discussing women in the police force

Planned Parenthood Advice On Reducing Fertility

 From 1969: