Repeated complaining rewires your brain to
make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to
be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around
you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people
perceive you.
That's not all damage that you'll experience. Complaining too much can lead to heart disease, stroke, obesity and diabetes:
While it’s not an exaggeration to say that complaining leads to brain damage, it doesn’t stop there. When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol...
All the extra cortisol released by frequent complaining impairs your immune system and makes you more susceptible to high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease and obesity. It even makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes.
It ruins life and health of others, too, though I sometimes think it's probably exactly what the downer's intention is anyway (remember the post about energy vampires?):
You need to be cautious about spending time with people who complain about everything. Complainers want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers.
Read the whole article over here. H/t to PJ Media.
Wouldn't it be lovely to see all those you'd prefer to comlain, to go outside for couple of minutes and complain there by themselves or with others who also prefer to complain? Just like the smokers doo... :-)
ReplyDeleteI don't know what's wrong with my keyboard (has it something to do with me??)
DeleteI meant...'to see all those who'd prefer to complain'
(and 'like the smokers do')
Great idea:) Maybe, we can have special "complaining spaces" for downers, and non-complaining spaces for everyone else!
ReplyDeletePerfect idea, Miriam!
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately our brains are wired to focus on negative, for obvious reasons. In modern world, it does not serve us that well. Luckily on can re-wire your brains.
This is very interesting book of the subject. I have found it very beneficial. I have tendency to focus on negative stuff but I have started to learn to focus on positive things.
http://www.rickhanson.net/books/hardwiring-happiness/
You know cheerful people are sometimes accused of having a Pollyanna attitude, but maybe that Victorian advice on keeping a stiff upper lip wasn't so bad after all!
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