Friday, January 24, 2014

The Peace And Quiet Of Home

May be I'm too young to write about peace and quiet, but I'll give it a try anyway:)

There is a Scandinavian legend about a man who fell in love with a Valkirie. They got married and she became a normal housewife but in the end couldn't stand the quiet domestic life and flew away to the battlefields, leaving her husband behind with a child. That's what often happens with women nowadays. They will seek the excitement and thrill and find a normal life at home boring.

It's actually easier nowadays than ever before because with the advent of Internet one can be physically at home, but mentally far away, fighting Internet battles instead of doing the dishes. Mind you that I don't mean anyone in particular, as I have been guilty of it myself at times.

Not so long ago there was a distinction between the male and female spheres of influence, and politics was the domain of men. Consider this quote by Queen Victorian of England:

I love peace and quiet, I hate politics and turmoil. We women are not made for governing, and if we are good women, we must dislike these masculine occupations.”  (taken from her famous quote on feminism, read it in full over here )

Please, think of it. She was a queen, and governing was her occupation and yet she wrote that she hated politics and turmoil. Why do so many women today love it? There are also men who expect women to fight their battles for them and demand to know why so few traditional women join their political movements. The answer is simple, a traditional woman prefers knitting (or sewing or gardening) to going to the barricades. I can't think of something less feminine than spending endless hours in political debates with strange men on the internet.

I don't want to say that a woman can't be interested in politics at all, or can't express her opinion on things, or can't have a site debating feminism, for instance. I do it myself sometimes, and through the years I learned a lot of things from the web. It's just that the traditional woman realises that the most important thing in her life is to create a peaceful and cosy environment at home so that she can nurture her children and take a good care of her husband. He spends his whole day breaking his back at work (at least, mine does), and when he finally comes home he wants some peace and quiet, not debating politics with his wife or listening to her complaints about how everything around sucks and how the world is going to end tomorrow.

Have you ever read When The Queens Ride By? If not, you can read it over here. The older I become the more I understand how true the story is. It's a woman's role, to play the queen. Let men go to the barricades and fight their battles, and when they return home, you'll provide them with a nice cup of tea and a good dinner for their efforts. Be a woman, not a brother in arms; in the end they will appreciate you much more for this!

You see, by fulfilling her supportive domestic role and keeping the home fires burning, a woman frees men to go out and do their part, and together they will make this world a better place.


  1. Bravo! Thank you. I am literally keeping the homes fires burning. We live in a log cabin with no heat and is 10 degrees here in Kansas.Our house would be an icicle if I weren;t there.:)

  2. You are welcome, Becky! Your life sure sounds adventurous:) Do you mean 10 degrees Celcius or Farhenheit?

  3. Once you start talking about hot subjects in your home, people can get angry and loud and then it ruins your appetite and destroys the atmosphere of the nice little dinner party. One a man shouted at us during dinner because he had a different opinion. He was never invited back.

  4. I'm sorry about your experiences!

  5. I can say the same about the fires, somebody must keep the house warm and when we are out to town, we appreciate that our faithful yard keeper waits for us to come and prepare his dinner after he made the fire and fed the animals for us. He cleans the goat stable and the chicken”s as well, all this happens during winter time, but in spring, summer and autumn my husband and I take care of our yard. The house is always my task. Now my husband must be preaching in a church several villages away in the neighborhood. I can't wait for him to come home and feel comfortable. Everybody is full, the yard keeper, the animals and I. My husband has left the house after a peaceful lunch. Now he must return in a couple of hours.

  6. I'm sure your husband appreciates all your efforts to create a cosy environment at home, especially considering the fact how challenging the job of a clergyman can be!