I'd like to draw your attention to this article. The author, a Catholic gentleman, gives eight (originally six) reasons not to send your daughter to college. The article received a lot of venomous comments from the group of people who normally preach tolerance day and night (until you dare disagree with some of their ideas). There were few attempts to refute his arguments point by point, instead, he got a lot of emotionally charged attacks and name-calling.
I don't necessarily agree with his reasoning and I don't regret getting an education, but I thought that he raised some interesting points in his article, which deserve a closer look. Take for instance, this statement:
But the penalty for
the woman as a result of the fall was pain in childbirth (which requires
having babies), not to work. Sending our wives out to work should be a
very last resort, a misfortune, so it shouldn’t be part of a plan for
young ladies before they even get a start at family life. Keeping a
home, being a loving wife, and being a nurturing mother are of
immeasurable dignity to a woman and not something to be farmed out to
servants. The feminist world has twisted this so that a job (career)
appears elevated, and homemaking is denigrated. This is the evil work
of Satan and devastating to families.
Those who advocate for married women to stay home are often asked who is going to be school teachers and nurses. Those types of jobs in Catholic countries were traditionally done by nuns, as the author of the article points out:
God has always given women abilities to bring value and service to their neighbor, which
is what people with jobs do. But to distinguish, as Catholics anyway,
it was rarely that a wife and mother did this until the last couple of
generations, and look at the impact on family life. Before, it was nuns
who did these things buildings convents, hospitals, schools, etc etc
In Protestant cultures we had female schoolteachers who were single ladies. They usually quitted working when they married. The same was true about nursing, however, before the 20th century, nursing was often done by women at home, as described in such books as "The Little House On The Prairie" series. In one of the books, the Ingalls family get malaria and the neighbour lady comes and stays with them during the period of their sickness and later returns home. Nowadays, there is also a possibility to homeschool your children in many countries, which allows women to use their talents at home:
Generally women will
marry and have children so are gifted by God with the natural abilities
to nurture (feed and raise) as well as educate children. Today’s
society has a very accessible conduit for that ability that is very
conducive to family life: homeschooling. Educating and caring for
children is the most valuable calling of a married woman and requires
The author, Mr Alleman then proceeds to state his reasons for not sending your daughter to college. There are two of them I want to comment about. His number one reason is that a lady with a degree will often attract a male golddigger:
I share the common
concern addressed to us, again mainly by angry women, that there are so
many lazy men in our society. But what mystifies me is why girls
continue to marry them and then live to complain about them, along with
their parents. So what normally happens with this setup is that those
lazy men who are looking for a mother-figure in a wife are very
attracted to this responsible, organized, smart woman who has it all
together along with a steady paying job with benefits. So if he wants
to go to work he can, but if not he can always fall back on her income.
Or if he “doesn’t want to have to answer to anyone” he can start his
own business, and it doesn’t matter if it fails or succeeds or makes
enough income because again she’s there to help. The bottom line, HE is
only supplementing HER income, but he’s supposed to be the provider.
Again, I don't necessarily agree with his reasoning about college (my husband, for instance, thinks that girls should go to college and learn some professional skills), but I think that Mr Alleman is certainly right while warning women about a type of man NOT to marry. He is also right about the fact that the husband is supposed to be the family provider and not expect his wife to pay the bills.
Probably the most important reason of all is his number 3, the girls are not taught to become wives and mothers. Here is what Mr Alleman says:
Often when a career
woman discerns the possibility of giving up her career, she faces the
reality that she has had no training in homemaking and often has the
thought “What would I do at home all day.”
That is certainly a problem for many women who are accustomed to spend their life in various institutions. However, the good news is that there is plenty to do at home, and that homemaking is something every lady can learn. Mr Alleman admits that homemakers contribute something very valuable to society:
are actually very busy industrious women and do absolutely beautiful
marvelous things. Surely the business world severely undervalues those
things they do, but the value to a family is beyond monetary
compensation. (emphasis mine).
Take a look at the last sentence. I think it expresses the essence of homemaking. A homemaker chooses to serve her family, not because of monetary reward, but because she wants to do what is the best for them and to fulfill her God-given role.
Instead of sending your daughter to college, you can better send her to Lichtenstein. According to this
brochure, it has a median monthly wage of 6 257 CHF and 42.9% of population which is single. Sounds like an ideal country to search for a husband!:)
Seriously though, the education of children, both boys and girls is a serious matter and something which should be discussed by the parents before the decision is taken. Articles like the one above are useful because they provide the opposite point of view to the default modern position of everyone going to college and create an opportunity for discussion, which is always good, provided there are actual arguments used instead of insults and emotional abuse.
And I like how the guy defends housewives. Ladies, it's time we started to be proud about what we are doing.