Are Men Special Snowflakes?

One of the feminist tactics has been promoting female victimhood and thus appealing to the innate chivalry of men. Nowadays we have some anti-feminists who are trying to apply the same tactics to spread the idea that it's men who have always been victims of women and society.

The whole idea of some abstract "men" vs "abstract "women" is ridiculous, to begin with. Women don't just come out of an egg, they have family, extended family, friends etc. It's all fine to debate abstract principles on the internet, in real life people tend to disregard ideology and side with their own.

Take, for instance, single mothers debate. Without going into morality of the case, let's look at the financial side of the issue. As far as I understand, in the USA the man who sires an illegitimate offspring, is on the hook for child support which drives men's rights' activists crazy. In my country, the man is only a father if he is married/signed a legal contract, otherwise he may opt out of fatherhood. The society will pick up the tab in this case. Let me tell you, that the men who work and pay taxes are less than charmed with the idea of providing for someone else's kids and don't think American system half as bad.

Another example would be the idea of alimony/child support. The whole issue is presented as men vs women. Women fleece men through child support, I'm told. It's true to a point, but not entirely true. What really happens if the marriage ends in divorce and the woman didn't work or only worked part-time and can't support herself and the kids (and no, not all fathers desire custody and it's incredibly difficult for a woman in my neck of woods to find a well-paying job after a certain age) and there are no financial obligations on the part of the ex-husband?

What happens is that her menfolk have now to support her and boy do they resent the idea. They mostly have their own wives and kids at this age and their wives resent it even more. So once again, it's not women against men, it's one group of men against another. I could go on and on, but I guess you see my point.

Since the default position with some people is that per definition, everything is women's fault, they sincerely expect that women should change things for the better, by I don't know what, starting a revolution? On the other hand, they complain of women in the army and point out they can't fight. It's true that most women aren't cut out to be warriors and neither they are supposed to be social reformers. Women will always support the status quo. In communist countries, the majority of women supported communism.  In fascist countries, most women supported fascism. In liberal democracy, most women support liberal democracy.

Present day feminism started spreading when the Enlightenment ideas started spreading. Among the supporters of the New World Order were women, too, but nearly all of the fighting and dying and reforming and starting revolutions was done by men. If men aren't content with how the world is run nowadays, it's up to them to change it and if they are lucky, they'll find a sympathetic woman to stand by their side but don't expect women to fight your battles for you.

Another topic which causes an undue amount of interest, is marital submission. What is there to talk about for hours, is incomprehensible to me. Yes, the husband is the head of the family and yes, the woman should submit, at least, if you are any form of a traditionalist you should believe it. Yes, it's true that women will at times challenge the husband's authority. It's not the proof of their intrinsic evil. Children do it with their parents, too.

When you have a position of authority those under you will try to challenge you. It's not enough to have the title, you have to prove you have guts to be the leader. It's your job to make your subordinates to look up to you and to instill respect. They won't respect you if they sense weakness of any kind. The problem with those guys who pour their hearts out on the internet is that they appear to live in fear of their own wives and children. That's not a way to go through life for a man.

The way I see it the problem with Western men is that they collectively lost their will to power. Until they find it back, things will continue to go downhill.