and what it isn't. I think she did a really good job defending the traditional marriage:
For my American readers: The video is apparently property of a British TV company and unfortunately, they chose to restrict it. I couldn't find a transcript of it anywhere on the lady's site, but here is the link to an article where she basically explains her position, with a bit more detail:
If you don't care reading the whole of it (it's long) here is a highlight:
Our laundry is always done, the fridge is always full, dinner is
always on the table - and each of us know where we stand. He ‘submits’
the decisions concerning the finer details to me, and trusts that I will
complete them to the best of my ability.
Equally, I submit to him the larger details which concern the
decisions which impact our family on a larger scale. We always discuss
things together of course, and my voice is heard - I’m not a dimwit.
Sometimes the decision we reach is one ‘decided’ by me, but I submit to
the fact that my husband is always in the immediate firing line for
anything that happens to our family. The buck stops with him at the end
of the day, and I’m happy for the “rescue” from some of life’s tougher
things (if you want to put it into Disney speak).
I'm proud to be a traditional housewife
I'll just add a couple of my own thoughts: there are some strange new submission theories floating around which make the wife a slave of her husband. That's not how the things used to work when most marriages were "traditional". Wifely submission and obedience was always tied to the husband's responsibility as a breadwinner. For instance, he could have to move for his job and the law compelled the wife to follow him, she had to submit in this case because otherwise he could lose his income and not be able to feed his family, etc etc.
This model simply won't work in the situation when the wife is a primary breadwinner or works full time or very close to it and earns a similar amount of money. Sorry, but the husband can't just choose one day to stay home for no reason at all, send his wife into the workforce full time and then expect her to be a sweet obedient little Suzy Homemaker when she comes home.
Marital obedience also doesn't mean that the wife has no right to express her opinion or that the husband has to micromanage her daily life or that she can't take any decisions on her own. When you run the household and take care of the kids, you'll have to take decisions every day and you can't always bother your husband about every little thing.
Yet, exactly as she explains it in her video, you won't take any major financial decision without your husband's permission since he is the one responsible for the well-being of his family. Yet, since he delegates the finer details of keeping the house to his wife, he will have, for instance, to "submit" to her choices what to eat for dinner tonight, though, of course, a good wife will listen to his preferences. Etc etc. That's how it supposed to work in a normal family.