How To Be Pleasing To Your Husband

It used to be that simply being a wife, a married woman was considered a job in itself, even without children present or with grown children, but not now any more. There is nothing more shocking to the mind of a feminist as the idea that it's the wife's job to make her husband happy, or to be generally pleasing to men. They react to it in the same manner as the vampire reacts to garlic. So in the light of the national "Offend A Feminist" week I'm presenting you with this article.

There are certain things which men usually find pleasing. They like a neat, well-organised household where meals are nutritious, smell nice and are served more or less on time. Keep your husband well fed and he won't waste family money by eating at a restaurant, as some do. While preparing the meals, keep in mind that men can have different taste in food than women.

As Mrs Andelin points out in The Fascinating Girl men like such things as "beef stew, roast beef and potatoes, fried chicken and biscuits, crisp green salads and apple pie with ice cream." They also like "homemade bread, rolls and muffins" and any food with "a savory aroma" such as "chicken soup, homemade bread and cinnamon rolls." They usually don't like "casseroles, wieners, cold cuts and prepared foods". (F.G., p. 105)

Men like women who keep their figure even after childbirth, have long hair and dress and behave femininely. They like their wives to be careful with money, to economise and to be good financial managers, but at the same time, to be reasonably well-dressed (nobody really likes slobs and it's a low class behaviour, too).

As we have already established on this blog, they don't really enjoy picking up housework and they generally resent honey-to-do-lists (really, what can be more emasculating than being bossed around by your wife as some sort of domestic help. If you really can't cope with housekeeping, ask him to hire you one, most men are open to the proposition if the finances aren't very tight).

Men like some romance in the bedroom, so try to find a reason to wear this nice lingerie set he bought you several years ago, and arrange for the bedroom to look inviting. In general, the man likes to be treated like the King of his castle. He likes it when he comes home from work and you meet him with a cup of coffee, looking fresh and cheerful (there is a lot to be said for the custom of taking a bath/shower and changing for dinner).

Now you are going to ask me why you should be doing all these things. The reason is twofold: first you owe it to your husband, second, you owe it to yourself. If you have a traditional marriage, your husband is likely out there working more than an average amount of hours to provide. Since he makes a living, it's your duty to make his life worth living (and to keep him from straying, too).

You owe it to yourself, because he may be the king, but you are his queen. A well-bred, high status woman won't have a messy home and won't look and behave like a slob. It's a matter of self-respect to look refined and dignified and not to allow your dwelling place to turn into a pigsty. Plus, excercising and eating well will keep you healthy and go a long way to preserve your looks (at least, partially), into your forties and fifties.

It's also a matter of character, because more often than not, it's laziness that keeps many women from achieving their goals. Be a domestic goddess and your husband will treat you like one, and that is the point:)