tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post8959710814305342148..comments2024-03-28T12:31:11.055-07:00Comments on Adventures In Keeping House: Isolation Of The Modern LifeSannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-86821924322019682812015-10-31T16:45:39.621-07:002015-10-31T16:45:39.621-07:00Hear, hear!
We can subvert the dominant paradigm!...Hear, hear!<br /><br />We can subvert the dominant paradigm!<br /><br />Culture war can be, and ought to be, waged back!Will S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02714519301979594160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-60948176995144640922015-10-26T08:14:23.669-07:002015-10-26T08:14:23.669-07:00Interesting. In the times past the family would cu...Interesting. In the times past the family would cut you off or at least, show their disapproval, if you had a child out of wedlock, or lived together unmarried or was planning to marry a guy not able to provide a living so that you would have to work. Nowadays it's because you choose to become a homemaker. Sannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-63032940167040276932015-10-26T06:16:34.037-07:002015-10-26T06:16:34.037-07:00I mostly agree. And I wish I could have large, clo...I mostly agree. And I wish I could have large, close family etc. And actually I see my parents and sister and her family much more than many ladies I know see theirs. But I have realized that to protect myself I must start seeing them as little as possible. I have never been "good enough" to my family and after I made the decision to stay at home -well, let's just say that they did not take it very well. I am a pariah in my own family. <br /><br />When it comes to one's nephew's and niece's: they are not only my sister's children. They are also her "spouse" (they are not even married) children. And that shows. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever to invest in HIS children. Especially since I have never seen children who behave so badly. And if I try to correct those kids in any way, my sister's "spouse" starts yelling at me. I mean really yelling. <br /><br />So sometimes it is very, very good thing that nowadays it is so easy to sever relations with your family. I have done that with my cousins and aunts already; I see no point in interacting with people who treat me like I was just playing comic side part in their movie. <br /><br />Back in the old days it was easier, since people shared the same values. And good manners still existed, even among family members. So it was easier to interact with all those people.Housewife from Finlandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-61363877454295531762015-10-26T01:56:25.087-07:002015-10-26T01:56:25.087-07:00Thanks, Vicki!Thanks, Vicki!Sannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-38429975587493779122015-10-25T20:17:40.283-07:002015-10-25T20:17:40.283-07:00KABOOM!!! Way to go Sanne! Very well said :)KABOOM!!! Way to go Sanne! Very well said :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01648360107885895238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-31571160737242342082015-10-23T12:15:09.150-07:002015-10-23T12:15:09.150-07:00About senior citizens, I think it also depends on ...About senior citizens, I think it also depends on the relationship between the parents and children, the type of the house they have, the health of both parties etc etc. Some people prefer to keep the distance while others want more interaction. Sannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-57095811112942574032015-10-23T12:08:40.036-07:002015-10-23T12:08:40.036-07:00I agree with you on many points. When I was young,...I agree with you on many points. When I was young, family members interacted and socialized with each other more. I remember my parents hosting big Sunday dinners with many aunts, uncles, and cousins present. However, I also see, in today's society, many families still getting together, and friends with young children celebrating birthdays and attending special school events, etc. These may not be the ideal social events, but at least they are interacting and are not isolating themselves and their own families from others. It's a different society now. I doubt it things will ever return to the "old ways." One more thing...I don't know of any senior citizens who are alone who would want to live with their married children. Most of us want to be independent and have our own places, modest and humble though they may be. I know I do. I much prefer being by myself than living with my daughters. Joyce Ackleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628063943686030106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-78469879874559199162015-10-23T06:47:14.058-07:002015-10-23T06:47:14.058-07:00I read an article yesterday where a Spanish man sa...I read an article yesterday where a Spanish man said that in Spain family was all important as opposed to the rights of the individual. That's how it more or less used to be everywhere. Nowadays we treat people and relationships as disposable. And yet, in times of trouble who is there for you outside your family and may be, a couple of friends? Sannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-1832770865162456742015-10-23T05:13:10.451-07:002015-10-23T05:13:10.451-07:00What an interesting blog! We have disconnected; fi...What an interesting blog! We have disconnected; first women went back to work and then technology. So many people are addicted to their smart phones and have not become smarter in the process. We have also become addicted to "things". Now our landfills are full. Families are being destroyed by "individualism".Mariettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12421484144455924614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-35320277244660694422015-10-23T04:02:38.214-07:002015-10-23T04:02:38.214-07:00I agree with you about domestic vs international a...I agree with you about domestic vs international adoption. I knew a family over here where the parents were helping their son financially to enable his wife to stay home with their two kids. They were Turkish. Dutch parents would offer babysitting services so that the wife could fulfill her duty to economy. Once again, it's not always about money, it's about mindset. Sannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124283361844607678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3139017677124620997.post-89529699881478812972015-10-23T03:51:11.706-07:002015-10-23T03:51:11.706-07:00Very interesting post! I mostly agree with your pe...Very interesting post! I mostly agree with your perspective about the family nowadays. Yes, extended families are stronger and help us consolidate better exchanges with one another. Yes, the urbanized lifestyle isolates the bubble family you have mentioned, nobody cares if you have money or food in the pantry. But I must give a chance to adoptive families, I have strong reasons to consider adoption a noble deed because loving a nephew or a niece is very nice but it is very unlikely to regard them as a real child of your own, because not every nephew or niece that needs help is orphaned, most of the family members have at least one parent, I know such a family and the relatives really support the partly orphaned girl, but it is not parental help.. Most of the infertile couples NEED to offer parental love and care, not just sharing family sentiments and food, care and education or their goods and one's house, I can understand how it feels to be unable to procreate and the need for becoming a real parent, that's why I admire people ready to adopt. But indeed, I don't agree with international adoptions, why shouldn't orphans be adopted in the same country with the adoptive parents? It's a matter of culture, civilization and having crucial things in common with the adopted child. It is very true what you said about the bubble. I sometimes have the same feeling that we must become somehow stronger and more coagulated if we want some results with our values about homemaking and family issues. But we have no governmental support, laws are against our dreams and goals. I have an example, a mother of a toddler turned back to work this year because the law in my country offers her half a salary over her income in order to convince her to give up maternal leave or care and start working earlier than 2 years. This is not fair, because many mothers here in Romania have husbands with very low incomes and they feel pressured to take a job and choose more money over staying at home the legal period of 2 years at least. I' m not talking about staying at home forever in this case. I just wanted to show why homemaking is so difficult to apply in some parts of the world if there is no governmental support. Developed countries may have better rules but feminism has been affecting them on other points, not exactly poverty and low incomes like in my country, but mentalities that work against the real needs of the family itself. Your blog is a good source of reflection topics.Preoteasa Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05996489147504336535noreply@blogger.com